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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.
Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.
The thing that stops me though is that I keep having this recurring dream and thought of picturing the operating theatre and I can see it all in my head and they pass me this baby… and it’s not Harry. And I am so terrified that I won’t love him or her?
Does anyone else ever get this feeling? I feel like a bad person with how often it blocks me from being able to TTC… I just keep replaying the entire surgery scene in my head like a dream and it always ends with them passing me this bundled up little baby and I just “don’t want it” - I feel like it’s insane because I was having sooo many similar dreams before conceiving Harry and whilst I was pregnant imagining this beautiful water birth where they pass me my baby and I imagined the tears of joy and all the love… now I just can’t stop imaging distaste and numbness…
Is this just hormones trying to trick me? Or maybe my subconscious now just wallowing in “birth = bad” rather than the old happy fantasies?
Thanks for anyone who has the time to read and help me, I appreciate it <3