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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > TTC and feeling lost-A Vent Post

My fiancee and I are trying to conceive and I really dont have anyone to talk to. We are on our third try and I feel almost hopeless about it.
Everywhere I go it's like someone else is expecting or I go out and theres little ones everywhere. I find myself not wanting to leave the house or go online anymore.
I feel so broken..has anyone else felt like this so early in their journey?
January 24, 2020 | Unregistered CommenterSadLuna
We are TTC as well, but doing IVF again as that is what worked for us the last time. I feel the same way, we can hardly go anywhere or do anything without feeling like the loss of our baby boy is being stuffed in our faces. Helpful people want me to be excited about trying again but I’m just so scared I can barely breathe. I’m just trying to take it one step at a time and one day at a time. Hang in there!
January 27, 2020 | Unregistered CommenterPam
I feel you. I feel like everyone in the whole world has a baby but me. My husband and I bought a house last week, arguably one of the first positives in our life since our daughter died and what were the real estate agents, mortgage person, and title person talking about as we signed papers? How one of their babies was doing, growing learning, getting ready to walk- all the things my daughter will never get to do. I can't even go to a freaking real estate closing without being reminded that my baby is dead. It was awful.
January 28, 2020 | Unregistered CommenterLeah
I hear you, I feel exactly the same way. It seems impossible to avoid pregnant women (or invitations to showers)--suddenly they are everywhere. We are trying to conceive as well and I don't think I ovulated this cycle which suddenly feels like the end of the world. I'm trying to stay positive and take it one day at a time but it is very challenging.
January 29, 2020 | Unregistered CommenterWallace's Mom
I know I'm late to this conversation but I absolutely know how you are feeling. When I'm home with my partner, we're ok, surviving, gardening, nurturing each other. When we have to leave our property, I just hate what the world; social distancing, fascists, people who don't deserve their kids... I swear if I didn't have my home and my love, I would struggle to find the will to live.

We are 4 months after a full-term loss and TTC but my period is not doing what it's supposed to and I feel really sad, missing my baby. How are you doing? Any of you manage conceiving?

Sending hope,
August 10, 2020 | Unregistered CommenterM
Same here. As soon as we had our pregnancy loss, it seems like every TV show we watched had a pregnancy going on. Not to mention friends and family around. My partner's support was everything to share the sad feelings. We are now pregnant again, but it took us a couple of months after TTC. Even though my cycle was different from before the pregnancy, it helped to keep a calendar. We also used an ovulation test kit to check for high fertility days. Hope it work out great for you.
May 28, 2021 | Unregistered CommenterB's mom