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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > Will Our Children Look Similar to Our Angels?

Hi ladies,

My husband and I lost our beautiful baby boy to SIDS when he was 4 months old, in November last year. We miss him every single day, but we also are starting to try for his brother or sister now. I was wondering if anyone can speak from experience or even just share thoughts on whether siblings tend to look similar? Obviously our first son cannot and will not ever be replaced, but I hold this silly hope that I will see something physically in our next child that will remind me of him. I can only share this in this forum as it is a safe place to share our thoughts, good, bad or plain weird.

February 13, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterJoshua's Mum
I'm so sorry about your son's death. It is too cruel. I lost my 4th child, Mary during labor due to a true knot in her cord. When she arrived I was amazed as she looked just like her big sister. I also have two boys, but they look very different. I do love that Mary looked like her sister, but to be honest it also makes me so sad knowing that I will have a reminder of what she could have been. Although I'm sure very different in personality. There is really no way to know, but they will be siblings and will resemble each other in some way! Wishing you ask the best in ttc.
February 13, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterMary's mom
I'm so sorry about your beautiful daughter Mary. You are right, there is no way we will ever truly know, and we will always want to know xxx
February 13, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterJoshua's Mum
My little girl was the spitting image of her big brother. The same eyes, nose, chin; everything but their hair was the same.
I'm sure you will find a ressemblance in your boy and his future brother/sister. Whether it be bold or slight it will be there. Its just so sad that we dont have more time with our passed babies to create more memories.
February 28, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterMachaela