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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

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ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > Thread: Loss after preeclampsia—others TTC or subsequent pregnancies?

I lost my son at 27 weeks due to very early onset of severe preeclampsia (PE). There is a high risk of PE returning but MFMs have said it is often later- but there is no gaurentee. There is no real treatment once PE is detected, just a lot of monitoring and baby aspirin. This makes it hard to even decide if we want to TTC. Wondering if there are others out there, also in a similar situation? Or others that have gone on to have successful pregnancies after loss due to PE?

My mind often goes like this: “I want another child, but want if the same thing happens? What if I lose another child, can I handle that loss? (Probably not) And since the baby will likely be preterm, will the child be healthy, or possibly suffer from issues with prematurity, and it will be our selfish fault for doing that to him/her when we knew that that could be a possible outcome.”
December 16, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterSadMama
What a tough decision to have to make. I'm so sorry you're in that situation. We have friends who were lucky enough to have 2 in a row born very early and spend a long time in the NICU--and lived. Both kids are ok now. I don't know what the usual statistics are or what your doctors told you, but it is possible to have one who makes it home. I'm sending you my best wishes.
December 27, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterJack's mom
Dear SadMama - I am in the same boat as you. My beautiful baby girl was born at just 24 weeks following severe early onset of preeclampsia. She passed away after 6 terrifying but glorious weeks. I have been looking for others with stories like ours, but there don't seem to be too many. Even though I don't have any helpful answers for you, I wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
December 31, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterInTheSameBoat
I’m so sorry for your losses. I totally understand wanting to read/hear stories of others in similar circumstances. If you haven’t seen it already, there is a blog by a fellow baby loss mom whose son passed away early 2017. He was born early due to her complications with PE and HELLP. She recently gave birth to her second son, born healthy this past fall.
January 4, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterKSG
Hi all. I just wanted to jump on here and give you some hope. I losty first born at 31 weeks due to severe preeclampsia. After that, I sought the help of a maternal fetal medicine specialist. For my next two pregnancies I took baby aspirin, folic acid 5mg, calcium and vitamin D, vitamin B6, thyroxine, and did daily injections of low molecular weight heparin. I had ultrasounds regularly and non-stress tests. I did not develop preeclampsia with either of my subscequent pregnancies. They were both born early (34.5 and 33 weeks) due to other reasons but we were prepared and they have both flourished. Try and find an expert to help you through. With proper management, you can make it through. All my love to you all.
January 17, 2019 | Unregistered CommenterSTB