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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > December Pregnancy Thread

Is anyone else her at Glow pregnant at the moment? I thought I’d start a thread just in case. I am 8wk today and still can’t wrap my head around it. Am I ready for this emotional roller coaster that is PAL? I’m not sure yet. I’m finding ignoring the whole situation is working out ok for me right now but obviously that can’t continue for much longer...
December 10, 2018 | Unregistered Commentermeg
<3 I think I'm in. I posted back in August when I got a positive following IVF, but it didn't last. This one is 9 weeks and looked great on 2 u/s visits so far. Here's hoping it works out!

I totally hear you on ignoring the situation. We have no daycare plans and the lists around here are notoriously long.
December 20, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterJack's mom
...I think that puts you 3 weeks ahead of me?
December 20, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterJack's mom
Hey Jack's mom : )

I'm due towards the end of July. I've had two scans so far too and lo and behold, there has been a heartbeat both times. Does that make it real?!

My brain just isn't letting me think that there may be a new addition to our family. I sit and try and imagine that scenario but just draw a blank. It's sad but I'm just telling myself that it's a protective measure after what we went through (my daughter was stillborn earlier this year). I'm hoping that these feelings will change as the pregnancy becomes more tangible (feeling movements, getting past 32 weeks etc) but if it doesn't, I guess it doesn't.

How are you coping? All the best for getting through Christmas xo
December 24, 2018 | Unregistered Commentermeg
I'm 10 weeks tomorrow xo
December 24, 2018 | Unregistered Commentermeg
I'm so sorry about your daughter, Meg. I had my rainbow daughter right after my son died at birth. It's so hard--I am thinking of you. I'm on Round 2 now--we had more losses after my daughter as we try for another take home baby. Hopefully this one takes.

I've had a few scans with a heartbeat, too! Apparently, it is real, but I'm still not convinced. It just makes me anxious when I think about it too hard.

Pregnancy has ruined my math skills because we are pretty close on our timelines. I will be 10 weeks on Friday.

I hope Christmas went as well for you as possible.
December 26, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterJack's mom