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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > Pregnant too soon?

I recently suffered a late term loss..... 38 weeks.

I was told to wait 2-3 cycles to start trying again. However, I do not think I can even wait that long. Has anyone here been pregnant again quickly after a loss?

September 7, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterSsK
Hi Ssk,
Mine wasn’t late term, but second trimester...21 weeks. We weren’t trying, but apperantly I ovulated later than I thought. I got pregnant 3 months after I had our baby girl. I’m 32 weeks now. I’m due 2 weeks after she was born. It’s a mixed bag of emotions for sure. I definitely wouldn’t rush into anything, this pregnancy has been very trying and being on bedrest for the last 15 weeks has been incredibly hard. Best of luck!
September 7, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterStacy
Hi Stacy,

Thanks for your response!! If you do not mind me asking... why are you on bedrest? Is it do to your previous loss?
September 7, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterSsK
Hi Ssk,
Yes it is. With our little Natalie, we went into our 20week scan and found out I had an incompetent cervix and my membranes were bulging. We did an emergency cerclage, but it was too little too late and we lost her a week later. I did a preventative cerclage this time and started shortening. At 17 weeks, and I actually funneled to the stitch at 24 weeks. So, I’ve been on bedrest since week 17. It’s a huge sacrifice, but I know this is our last baby and I will do anything I can to try and make it to full term.

P.s. I don’t mind talking about my’s helpful as I fell most people are afraid to talk about it or her. :)
September 9, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterStacy
SsK, I'm right there with you. I lost my son at 34 week, he was our first. At first we were told to wait at least 3 months. Then the doctor said he suggested waiting at least 6 months. I did have a c-section, so that is a factor as well. However, September 7 was my 3 month mark and my husband and I have started trying. We are trying to take it slow and let whatever happens just happen. That's hard though; I want to be pregnant so bad.
September 17, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterB
Hi B,

I completely understand. I am currently right around the 7 week mark PP. I've already had my period as well. My husband and I have DTD even though i know I'm not fertile yet (maybe later this week i will ovulate) I haven't decided if we will officially "try" yet.

I had a vaginal birth so i was told 3 months. However I do know others with vaginal births that got pregnant 6-8 weeks PP. I am thinking about trying and seeing what happens. But we will see. ..

September 17, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterSsK