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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > So anxious for anatomy scan

I have my 20 week anatomy scan in two days and cannot control my anxiety. I went into preterm labor at 23 weeks with my first pregnancy and was told my son was perfectly healthy, but I can’t shake the fear this time around that something is wrong. I am also feeling some mixed emotions because the doctor I’ll be seeing after my scan is the same one who delivered the news to my husband and me that our son would likely not survive when I went into preterm labor.

How do I learn to let go of my constant fear?
June 26, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterEmily A

I wrote a very similar post a week before my anatomy scan last year! My circumstances were different, but I totally get why this would be a difficult time for you. I just wanted to say I’m sending so many positive vibes your way and I hope the scan is completely uneventful!
June 27, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterAK
Thank you so much for your kind words. My scan went well today and now it’s just surviving week to week from here...
June 29, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterEmily A