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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > Best friend is preg and I got my period

Pretty much explained in the title. It's just a rough week. My husband and I have just decided to start trying again, finally had a little bit of hope creeping into our lives for a change. We are so excited for our friend, truly. Waking up to Aunt Flo is a different story... it's just so much torture over and over, not to mention the land mines of every day life... how is it even possible to love Target again, I used to go there just to stroll around but now I sprint to the deodorant and check out as quickly as possible. I guess I don't have a question or concern, just venting to the only people who most likely understand and through it all I still have so much to be thankful for... I don't want to be this bitter person but for today, I think that it's okay.
September 14, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAnon
You're entitled to be bitter today. In fact, you're entitled to anything you can think of - chocolate, wine, a massage, cat videos, a walk on the beach, Netflix with a tub of ice cream, some online groceries (so you don't have to brave Target), a long hot bath ... whatever is available to you. Weirdly, I buy pot plants when I'm stuck in a slump. Our apartment now has a lot of plants. I also like to hang out with my gay friends, or in places where there are smokers and alcohol (no babies or pregnant women). Sometimes these things help a bit, and sometimes they don't. Wishing you that little feeling of lightness and hope you get when you know that the worst of a slump has passed...
September 15, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterK West