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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > Gestational Carrier

Hello lovely ladies,

I am approaching my sixth cycle TTC and I feel that, sooner or later, I will be staring down a positive pregnancy test, horrified out of my wits for the next 37 weeks to pass without the death of another of my children. Mentally, I am faring alot better than I was than when Riyad died in November--physically, too.

Part of my coping is being realistic. I need to have a plan IF I suffer another stillbirth. This would include looking at adoption (which my husband doesn't really like yet), or spending money on a gestational surrogate / carrier.

Has anyone had a gestational carrier before? What was the process? Can you give me more general information? I'm tempted to just do it now...the fear of losing another baby is crippling...but I have in my heart the need to try again, and if it doesn't work, I am really wanting to try this option!
August 10, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterNada
No advice or experience with gestational carriers but I too am making mental plans for a potential miscarriage if I get pregnant or if I don't get pregnant then trying IVF.
August 10, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterDenise