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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > PAL... again...

I lost my first child, had a rainbow a year (give or take)later, and now I'm pregnant with another rainbow and should all go well baby will arrive when second baby is about 1.5 years old. After the most brutal of losses it isn't lost on me that I've been fortunate fertility wise and I'm incredibly thankful for that. That said, I'm worried about how people might react to the news of this pregnancy... I plan to share sensitively, but will people feel triggered? I don't know anyone on my timeline pregnant with a second rainbow... some are still trying for their first rainbow. I'm just worried I'll be further isolated by some friends I've made as some might look at the close succession of pregnancies and see a comparatively lesser fertility struggle (which is valid). Has anyone else felt this way? Any advice?
July 15, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterAnon
A gentle congrats on your pregnancy and I'm so happy for the safe arrival of your first rainbow. In my experience baby loss support is strong amongst us mamas who have been there. I don't think anyone will resent you or isolate you for being pregnant with a second rainbow quickly but if they feel they have to take a step back because their own journey is taking longer or they feel triggered that is up to them and I guess you just have to respect their needs. But as you've said you'll be sharing the news respectfully it isn't your job to worry about how other people will react or feel- they are on their own path. I'm sure you will still be surrounded by support and it's lovely of you to be so aware of other's thoughts and feelings. TTC and loss is so tough and everyone has a different path. Your journey is yours to have and you shouldn't feel guilty that it's been easier in the conceiving way than some others. Take care x
July 15, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterShelby's Mum