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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > How long?

For those of you that went on to have rainbow pregnancies - how long did it take you to conceive after the death of your precious baby? I know the average time is 6-12 months, and we are on cycle 4. I am so consumed with grief and an obsession to get pregnant and can't think of anything other than those two things. I thought that 6 months after our baby died, I'd be ending 2016 on a better note and it just doesn't seem to be the case.

TIA! And big hugs to all of you as we navigate this holiday season. It's even harder than I thought it would be. :(
November 28, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterNS
Hi NS. I'm so sorry for your loss and the current waiting game you are in. I was the same. It took me seven, very long months to conceive after we lost our first son. I was so desperate to be pregnant again that my entire life at that time revolved around my cycle. Each month it didn't happen was another devastating blow. I wish I had encouraging words for you but all I can really say is that I understand your painful wait. Keep trying and hold onto hope. All the best!
December 1, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterEjb
I'm sorry you find yourself here and in this difficult waiting time...... I fell pregnant with my rainbow boy in December- the same year of our March loss of Shelby. So 9 months. We had been trying every month following her birth and I kept getting positive pregnancy tests then late periods the following week (chemical pregnancies). I went on low dose aspirin and the following cycle stuck. I have since had a second rainbow without the need for aspirin. Wishing you all the best for your journey and hope your next cycle is the one! x
December 2, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterShelby's Mum