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ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > High-Risk Pregnancy After Loss?

Dear Glow Community,

After a miscarriage and a stillbirth at 28 weeks I am pregnant again (early days, so keeping my expectations down). I am wondering if this pregnancy, should it continue, will be automatically classified as high risk. It was a cord accident, so I could see this going either way from the medical perspective, but I was wondering if this is commonly done for psychological reasons. I'm in the US. Does anyone know?

Thank you!
October 12, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterA
Hi A, first a very gentle congrats on your pregnancy. It's both exciting and terrifying all at once. I had two miscarriages and a stillbirth at 28 weeks (to placental abruption). My subsequent pregnancy with my son (who is now almost 10 months old) was classified as high risk because of the abruption, the previous miscarriages, a uterine anomaly, and advanced maternal age. Have you seen a maternal fetal medicine (MFM) specialist? I would highly recommend it if not since he/she would go over your entire history. The other thing for me was actually that my regular OB (you have to have a regular OB to do the delivery since MFM don't typically do them) recognized my need for additional scans, care etc. They even did an extra scan at 28 weeks because they knew I was particularly anxious (they made up some reason for it just so it would be covered). The only other thing I would add, and this is particularly hard, is having to be your own advocate. Sometimes, the insurance company and the doctors make decisions based on policy and they have nothing to do with you...and so you might have to insist on special protocols. That might mean changing doctors if that's possible. Good luck. This is a rough road to be on.
October 13, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterAB
Thank you, AB, this was helpful. I am so sorry for your losses! I have not seen an MFM specialist, but it's probably a good idea to talk about that with my OB-GYN. I really like her and trust her. She was amazing through this whole process, so I will see what she says. Given it was a cord accident it might not make sense to go through that extra stress. On the other hand I want to feel like I did everything I could. Indeed, this is rough.
October 16, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterA