ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > Rainbow pregnancy after Placental Abruption at 37weeks
Hello! This didn't happen to me, but a friend experienced something very similar - placental abruption at 38 weeks, resulting in the death of her daughter. She was pregnant again five months later. She was monitored and everything went smoothly. She had another pregnancy after that without incident. I hope that's at least encouraging!
February 9, 2016 |
Jane

Oh, that is so encouraging. Thank you for your reply.
February 9, 2016 |
Silas' Mama

Silas' mama, I lost my daughter to placental abruption at 28 weeks in June 2014. I delivered a healthy boy in December. The pregnancy was hard (if uneventful) and it helped to have lots of support and doctors who respected my anxiety. I was seen almost weekly throughout (alternating between my Ob and the specialist) and delivered via scheduled cesarean at 37 weeks. I also developed gestational diabetes, which fortunately was controlled through diet. Anyway, one day at a time mama! Wishing you all the best.
February 9, 2016 |
AB

I had a placental abruption (slow, thought I was out the woods) but the. I totally a rioted at 27 weeks and even though I was in the hospital and they were able to deliver my boy and save me, despite the prep meds and all, my sweet baby's lungs weren't strong enough and he passed away shortly after he was born, before I woke up.
From what my docs say and my ocd research, unless they found a specific disease abruption is very unlikely again. Still so nerve wrecking though, once you have been through that god awful nightmare.
We really want a rainbow baby too, but my docs were pretty adamant that we wait a year before ttc. Our year mark is a few weeks shy of happening but it's also anniversary time, so new gear and reliving everything is happening all over again. I think that's really normal.
In a lot of ways you are already ahead of me in the game, you already have your rainbow baby on the way, congrats! What I can tell you is to be very kind to yourself, give yourself time. Even though you are due at the time of the anniversary, put aside special time to honor your angel baby. Your rainbow baby will be sweet and perfect, but he will never be your angel baby- so don't expect that.
Roll with your feelings- and expect all kinds of conflicting emotions. I had a friend who went through this- and to her shock and anger, she was disappointed that her rainbow wasn't the angel baby- and she was broken hearted. But then she held her new 2 week old baby and poured out her soul- told her new baby the story of his big brother, and thanked the new baby for being theirs. She said ding that took down a wall and then her new boy felt like her son. The main thing is letting yourself have and go through the unexpected, crazy feelings. Don't feel bad for having them, just embrace and do what you feel you need to.
I hope to have a rainbow like you someday. I hope it goes great and you feel overflowing peace, joy, and love!
From what my docs say and my ocd research, unless they found a specific disease abruption is very unlikely again. Still so nerve wrecking though, once you have been through that god awful nightmare.
We really want a rainbow baby too, but my docs were pretty adamant that we wait a year before ttc. Our year mark is a few weeks shy of happening but it's also anniversary time, so new gear and reliving everything is happening all over again. I think that's really normal.
In a lot of ways you are already ahead of me in the game, you already have your rainbow baby on the way, congrats! What I can tell you is to be very kind to yourself, give yourself time. Even though you are due at the time of the anniversary, put aside special time to honor your angel baby. Your rainbow baby will be sweet and perfect, but he will never be your angel baby- so don't expect that.
Roll with your feelings- and expect all kinds of conflicting emotions. I had a friend who went through this- and to her shock and anger, she was disappointed that her rainbow wasn't the angel baby- and she was broken hearted. But then she held her new 2 week old baby and poured out her soul- told her new baby the story of his big brother, and thanked the new baby for being theirs. She said ding that took down a wall and then her new boy felt like her son. The main thing is letting yourself have and go through the unexpected, crazy feelings. Don't feel bad for having them, just embrace and do what you feel you need to.
I hope to have a rainbow like you someday. I hope it goes great and you feel overflowing peace, joy, and love!
February 11, 2016 |
April

Hello Silas' Mom,
I am so sorry our lost your dear son to a placenta abruption. My thoughts are with you and your family. I had a placenta abruption with our second baby at 32 weeks and did not make it to the hospital in time and she was stillborn. It was the saddest day of my life.
I became pregnant with our third baby, our rainbow son, three months later. my pregnancy with our son was perfect. He was born naturally at 38 weeks, one week prior to my scheduled induction and his placenta looked perfect according to my doctor.
Things that helped me survive my subsequent pregnancy included: seeing an MFM and OB, having biophysical profiles and non stress tests two times a week starting at 28 weeks, counting kicks multiple times during the day, following the Brewer diet and eating extremely healthy, getting enough sleep, taking it easy on my body (I did not exercise at all during this pregnancy), and seeing a therapist who specialized in perinatal loss. my MFM and OB were amazing, I could not have survived without them. My MFM told me that it's rare for a placenta abruption to happen twice if you are not predisposed to any of the contributing factors (which I wasn't). He also told me that if I ever felt that something was wrong I should go to labor and delivery (after 24 weeks) right away, that I know my body best and to trust in myself. Because of this sometimes on the weekends in between my weekly appointments I would go to the hospital and get checked at labor and delivery. If you live in America, no hospital can turn you away if you present with labor complaints or lack of movement.
Wishing you all the love and best wishes for your rainbow pregnancy. I know for me it was such a long nine months but so worthwhile when my son was born alive. He has been the most healing experience for our family and I am so grateful every day to have him in my life.
I am so sorry our lost your dear son to a placenta abruption. My thoughts are with you and your family. I had a placenta abruption with our second baby at 32 weeks and did not make it to the hospital in time and she was stillborn. It was the saddest day of my life.
I became pregnant with our third baby, our rainbow son, three months later. my pregnancy with our son was perfect. He was born naturally at 38 weeks, one week prior to my scheduled induction and his placenta looked perfect according to my doctor.
Things that helped me survive my subsequent pregnancy included: seeing an MFM and OB, having biophysical profiles and non stress tests two times a week starting at 28 weeks, counting kicks multiple times during the day, following the Brewer diet and eating extremely healthy, getting enough sleep, taking it easy on my body (I did not exercise at all during this pregnancy), and seeing a therapist who specialized in perinatal loss. my MFM and OB were amazing, I could not have survived without them. My MFM told me that it's rare for a placenta abruption to happen twice if you are not predisposed to any of the contributing factors (which I wasn't). He also told me that if I ever felt that something was wrong I should go to labor and delivery (after 24 weeks) right away, that I know my body best and to trust in myself. Because of this sometimes on the weekends in between my weekly appointments I would go to the hospital and get checked at labor and delivery. If you live in America, no hospital can turn you away if you present with labor complaints or lack of movement.
Wishing you all the love and best wishes for your rainbow pregnancy. I know for me it was such a long nine months but so worthwhile when my son was born alive. He has been the most healing experience for our family and I am so grateful every day to have him in my life.
March 1, 2016 |
JT

Oh and one more thought about grieving while pregnant, my therapist told me that was so normal and okay and that me being sad would not have a negative impact on my rainbow pregnancy and that I should just let myself feel whatever emotions I felt.
Also after our son was born I felt (and still feel) that he has a very strong connection to the daughter we lost. He looks similar to her in some ways, and he has been a ray of light, he smiled the day he was born as is a very happy baby...we think it's because he is just so happy to be here.
Also after our son was born I felt (and still feel) that he has a very strong connection to the daughter we lost. He looks similar to her in some ways, and he has been a ray of light, he smiled the day he was born as is a very happy baby...we think it's because he is just so happy to be here.
March 1, 2016 |
JT

I have been lurking ttc after loss forums for a while just hoping for stories like your's JT ! Especially with what helped get you through what was surely a stressful and anxious 9 months! Congratulations on your rainbow , hope to have mine soon. Thank you so much for sharing!!
March 1, 2016 |
Adam's mommy

Hi Adam's Mommy,
I'm so glad my story is helpful for you, I was in the same boat not so long ago where I would scour the internet trying to find stories of women who had given birth after a placenta abruption. Looking at it from the other side now, I try to share my story as often as I can to help hope and positivity triump over fear. Wishing you much love with your rainbow pregnancy, you can do this, you are an amazing mommy.
I'm so glad my story is helpful for you, I was in the same boat not so long ago where I would scour the internet trying to find stories of women who had given birth after a placenta abruption. Looking at it from the other side now, I try to share my story as often as I can to help hope and positivity triump over fear. Wishing you much love with your rainbow pregnancy, you can do this, you are an amazing mommy.
March 2, 2016 |
JT

Its so reassuring to hear these stories. My boyfriend and I lost our daughter Poppy at 41 weeks during a very normal labour to placenta abruption in October 2015. She was our first child and I don't really know where the last 5 months have gone. We are now pregnant again which is obviously good news but terrifying and its difficult to let ourself get excited and happy. I've been scared to read the internet but took a risk today and so happy to have found some happy outcomes. Hopefully next October I can add another hopeful story. Sending best wishes to you all and your children. xx
March 19, 2016 |
FM

Thank you so much for sharing your story JT! I too have scoured the internet looking for information regarding what happened to our daughter trying to reassure myself that this baby might actually make it out alive, but much of the info. I found was so depressing and scary. It got to a point where my doctor suggested that I stay off of the internet for a while because my fears were (and sometimes still are) so out of control. These stories bring me hope-hope that we can bring this baby girl into the world safely. Thank you again!
April 7, 2016 |
Ashleigh

This is truly the only site that seems to be somewhat promising after abruption. I lost my perfectly healthy baby two weeks ago to placenta abruption and all I can do is grieve and hope the days speed up. It's somewhat hard to hear you need to wait six months to a year to try again, especially when you feel so empty. I already had a 6 year old from a previous relationship, that pregnancy was perfect and this one was as well. I went in at 38 weeks because I didn't feel as much movement as I normally did at night. There was no heartbeat, I didn't know until emergency c section. How long did everyone's doctors tell them to wait after stillbirth with c section? Can things go really wrong if it happens before six months?
April 11, 2016 |
Makaela

Makaela,
Our doctor said I needed to wait 6 months. I told him I couldn't and wouldn't. He said I at least needed to wait 4 months so they wouldn't be Irish twins. I got pregnant on the fourth month. I'm 16 weeks along now and Silas has been gone since September. Our Dr did tell us that technically he recommends 18-24 months between births.
Our doctor said I needed to wait 6 months. I told him I couldn't and wouldn't. He said I at least needed to wait 4 months so they wouldn't be Irish twins. I got pregnant on the fourth month. I'm 16 weeks along now and Silas has been gone since September. Our Dr did tell us that technically he recommends 18-24 months between births.
April 11, 2016 |
Silas' Mama

Silas' Mom,
Were they able to check and make sure you were all healed once you became pregnant again? I'm worried about my uterus getting back to where it needs to be. I told my husband they recommend 6 months to a year and he was some what disapppointed. Is this pregnancy going well for you? Are you seeing a high risk Doctor this time? Sorry for the million questions!
Were they able to check and make sure you were all healed once you became pregnant again? I'm worried about my uterus getting back to where it needs to be. I told my husband they recommend 6 months to a year and he was some what disapppointed. Is this pregnancy going well for you? Are you seeing a high risk Doctor this time? Sorry for the million questions!
April 12, 2016 |
Makaela

Makaela,
No they weren't able to tell. I had a rough emergent CS with Silas. My thought was my body will know when it's ready. Everything is going perfect. This baby has a posterior placenta (thank God) while Silas had an anterior that's linked to higher placental abruption. I will be seeing a high risk Dr for dual care.
No they weren't able to tell. I had a rough emergent CS with Silas. My thought was my body will know when it's ready. Everything is going perfect. This baby has a posterior placenta (thank God) while Silas had an anterior that's linked to higher placental abruption. I will be seeing a high risk Dr for dual care.
April 12, 2016 |
Silas' Mama

Hello FM, Ashleigh and Makalea,
I am so tremendously sorry that you have each had the to suffer a placenta abruption and my heart goes out to you all. I am sending many positive thoughts your way for safe and sound future pregnancies and children. Unless you have a risk factor (like blood clotting which your doctor can test for) placenta abruption is rare and according to my OB and MFM rare that it happens twice.
Makalea, we only waiting three cycles before becoming pregnant with our son. My original OB (who delivered our now four year old) told us to wait a year, the OB at the ER who delivered the daughter we lost told us to wait six months, my MFM and OB that I switched to for our son's pregnancy told us that waiting three cycles is sufficient time for your body (if you had a vaginal delivery previously) to heal. I never stopped taking my prenatal vitamins and took (at the MFM's recommendation) low dose aspirin until 37 weeks with my son. We were so lucky and blessed that my pregnancy with him was perfectly normal. I did have an anterior placenta with our son and posterior placentas with our oldest daughter and the daughter we lost. The only negative with an anterior placenta is that it blunts the movement in the first and part of the second trimesters. I will say having two pregnancies back to back was difficult on my body which is why I did everything I could to eat healthy, stay off my feet, and try to get enough sleep and relax. Sending you hugs!
I am so tremendously sorry that you have each had the to suffer a placenta abruption and my heart goes out to you all. I am sending many positive thoughts your way for safe and sound future pregnancies and children. Unless you have a risk factor (like blood clotting which your doctor can test for) placenta abruption is rare and according to my OB and MFM rare that it happens twice.
Makalea, we only waiting three cycles before becoming pregnant with our son. My original OB (who delivered our now four year old) told us to wait a year, the OB at the ER who delivered the daughter we lost told us to wait six months, my MFM and OB that I switched to for our son's pregnancy told us that waiting three cycles is sufficient time for your body (if you had a vaginal delivery previously) to heal. I never stopped taking my prenatal vitamins and took (at the MFM's recommendation) low dose aspirin until 37 weeks with my son. We were so lucky and blessed that my pregnancy with him was perfectly normal. I did have an anterior placenta with our son and posterior placentas with our oldest daughter and the daughter we lost. The only negative with an anterior placenta is that it blunts the movement in the first and part of the second trimesters. I will say having two pregnancies back to back was difficult on my body which is why I did everything I could to eat healthy, stay off my feet, and try to get enough sleep and relax. Sending you hugs!
April 14, 2016 |
JT

Hi all, I am grieving the loss of my son just over a month ago. He was 33 wks. I had a placental abruption , that caused him to live only 41 hours. I cannot stop think about him . Even though he cannot be replaced , I need to fill this hole in my heart. I had high bp during my pregnancy which resulted in him receiving decreased oxygen and nutrients. He was only 3 lbs. He was concieved via ivf. My doctors advised me that I can try 3-6 months later . I really need to . I would definitely have to get another C section tho . Just don't want another abruption.
Cai's mommy ! Please feel free to message me bac on coping techniques !
Cai's mommy ! Please feel free to message me bac on coping techniques !
July 28, 2017 |
Cai

Hi Silas mom, I saw that you got pregnant 4 months after you lost your angel baby. . . How did that pregnancy work out ? Did you have a C section with the previous pregnancy ?
July 28, 2017 |
Cai

Hi ladies!
Haven't been on since last spring when we lost our sweet girl. We got pregnant in July, 4 months after losing our girl. I had an uneventful pregnancy until at 34 weeks my High risk doc found a varix cord (abnormal dilation of the cord). Our son Haven was delivered early at 35 weeks due to me demanding... my doctors were hesitant but I had a mommy instinct that things weren't right. He was delivered by c section like his sister was and to the doctors' surprise he had the cord around his neck 3 times and my uterus was "paper thin"... I heard them say, "good thing we got him out today... you would have lost him too." He is now 4 months and 17 lbs... 86th percentile and was born a preemie.
To the. Ew mom's going through loss, nothing will be harder... I just left the cemetery and I still cry. But I see her still today through her brother and signs throughout my days. Pregnancy after loss is he's, I'm having a real hard time with post partum. Give yourself grace, not all mom's have gone through what you have and it takes a lot to get through. I pray for each and every one of you. Take it day by day... your little ones will never be forgotten!
Hugs,
Makaela
Haven't been on since last spring when we lost our sweet girl. We got pregnant in July, 4 months after losing our girl. I had an uneventful pregnancy until at 34 weeks my High risk doc found a varix cord (abnormal dilation of the cord). Our son Haven was delivered early at 35 weeks due to me demanding... my doctors were hesitant but I had a mommy instinct that things weren't right. He was delivered by c section like his sister was and to the doctors' surprise he had the cord around his neck 3 times and my uterus was "paper thin"... I heard them say, "good thing we got him out today... you would have lost him too." He is now 4 months and 17 lbs... 86th percentile and was born a preemie.
To the. Ew mom's going through loss, nothing will be harder... I just left the cemetery and I still cry. But I see her still today through her brother and signs throughout my days. Pregnancy after loss is he's, I'm having a real hard time with post partum. Give yourself grace, not all mom's have gone through what you have and it takes a lot to get through. I pray for each and every one of you. Take it day by day... your little ones will never be forgotten!
Hugs,
Makaela
July 28, 2017 |
Makaela

I sit here with my now 32 week old daughter who was born at 26w5d on December 10 (due date was 3/7/18).
I am forever grateful that my abruption went the way it did unlike some I have read. I have 3 older children that were all full term and uncomplicated, having my water break and delivering 4 days later still seems surreal .. She has never needed oxygen and is thriving as I type, my heart goes out to all of you and I am simply in awe that this little girl is more of a miracle than I realized after learning what I did from my Drs appointment yesterday and piecing together the 2 weeks that led up to her delivery. I am sorry if this is a bit rambling like but it is all hitting my soul as I sit here with her in the NICU.
May you all be well and my prayers to you as well.
I am forever grateful that my abruption went the way it did unlike some I have read. I have 3 older children that were all full term and uncomplicated, having my water break and delivering 4 days later still seems surreal .. She has never needed oxygen and is thriving as I type, my heart goes out to all of you and I am simply in awe that this little girl is more of a miracle than I realized after learning what I did from my Drs appointment yesterday and piecing together the 2 weeks that led up to her delivery. I am sorry if this is a bit rambling like but it is all hitting my soul as I sit here with her in the NICU.
May you all be well and my prayers to you as well.
January 19, 2018 |
Amy

So glad to hear she’s doing well! They are truly miracles making it into this world. Enjoy your precious bundle! 💜
January 19, 2018 |
Makaela

Hey all,I am grieving the loss of my sweet angel Zoey. I had a placenta abrution and delivered my baby girl at 24 weeks on 1/10/19.I actually was at the hospital a day before I had her and my doctor sent me home. I was in so much pain and I knew something was wrong but he convinced my it was UTI to drink plenty of fluids. I woke up to contraction and soon after my water breaking.I'm really having a hard time controlling all my emotions from being overwhelmed with greif ,to anger ,and guilt.My husband is trying to reassure me that we can try again but the thought of going through this again is overwhelming.
As I read all the story of all the woman who has went through the same horrifying experience as me kind of give me hope that one day we can also be blessed with our Rainbow baby as well.Thanks so much for the encouraging words now I don't feel so alone.I will be praying for you all.
As I read all the story of all the woman who has went through the same horrifying experience as me kind of give me hope that one day we can also be blessed with our Rainbow baby as well.Thanks so much for the encouraging words now I don't feel so alone.I will be praying for you all.
January 21, 2019 |
Zoey's Mom

Hi,
I lost my son (4th baby) at 38weeks due to a sudden complete placental abruption during the night in 2017. He was delivered by crash c-section & I also lost a lot of blood and was very very poorly. My baby was taken to nicu but died the following day. After he died, I read here looking for hope and thought I’d leave a message. I conceived again approx 9 months after his death, it was the most worrying scariest time. I had a baby girl via scheduled c-section at 37 weeks in 2018 without complications and we came home the following day. I’m sorry to read about others who also live with this pain of loosing their baby. Sending hope & light ✨
I lost my son (4th baby) at 38weeks due to a sudden complete placental abruption during the night in 2017. He was delivered by crash c-section & I also lost a lot of blood and was very very poorly. My baby was taken to nicu but died the following day. After he died, I read here looking for hope and thought I’d leave a message. I conceived again approx 9 months after his death, it was the most worrying scariest time. I had a baby girl via scheduled c-section at 37 weeks in 2018 without complications and we came home the following day. I’m sorry to read about others who also live with this pain of loosing their baby. Sending hope & light ✨
May 9, 2019 |
L

I would like to say thank you to all of you beautiful moms who shared their stories they have helped me so much during this time of grief. We lost our Angel Jaylen on 8/19/19 and this has been the hardest thing I've ever dealt with. He would have been my 4th baby and we miss him so much. We know he cant ever be replaced but hearing about your successful pregnancies after your losses has helped me so much. May all of our Angels rest in heaven for they have all been blessed with Angel wings. And may all of us moms be blessed with the strength to continue on each day. Praying for all of you and sending love.
August 26, 2019 |
Jaylens Mommy

I lost my second baby(girl Rita) on 6th of August from a complete placental abruption. She was 38 weeks and 4 days and perfectly good. I didn't have any complications during the pregnancy. It was very hard and until now I cant believe what had happened as if it was a bad dream. I am 43 years old and would like to try to get pregnant. My doctor told me that i can pregnant after six months although he prefers me to wait more but due to my age I don't have enough time. All the sites that I have read they say that we need to wait more than a year to get pregnant after placental abruption.
Note: I had a c section through my 2 pregnancies. I am afraid of placental abruption in the next pregnancy.
Note: I had a c section through my 2 pregnancies. I am afraid of placental abruption in the next pregnancy.
September 18, 2019 |
Katy

Hi Katy,
So sorry for your devastating loss. I was also 38+4 without pregnancy complications (4th baby, my first c-section ) I was age 40 & advised usually to wait at least a year before ttc again but my consultant said at least 6 months as I was concerned about my age & time running out. I conceived around 8 months after abruption & C-sections were around 17 months apart (my second c-section) Baby was delivered at 37+4. It was very scary throughout the whole pregnancy, but I was monitored more.
So sorry for your devastating loss. I was also 38+4 without pregnancy complications (4th baby, my first c-section ) I was age 40 & advised usually to wait at least a year before ttc again but my consultant said at least 6 months as I was concerned about my age & time running out. I conceived around 8 months after abruption & C-sections were around 17 months apart (my second c-section) Baby was delivered at 37+4. It was very scary throughout the whole pregnancy, but I was monitored more.
September 18, 2019 |
L

Hi Zoey’s mom,
Thank you for sharing your sorry and I’m sorry for your loss. I too went through a similar loss with my son and first baby Theodore (Theo) on 9/9/19. We became pregnant after a cycle of clomid/IUI after having issues with infertility. Theo was born at 23 weeks and passed away on his 5th day in the NICU. I had a somewhat uneventful pregnancy initially but did not have chance to connect with him as I had an anterior placenta and was hardly able to feel his movements. I remember presenting to labor and delivery the day before with irregular “abdominal tightening” and 2 streaks of bloody mucus but was discharged home with possible BV infection and asked to drink more water (no ultrasound was ever done). The next day on 9/9, I started feeling intense cramping every 2-3 minutes in the evening and then all of sudden large amount of bloody discharge. I can remember that moment I saw the blood and broke down crying uncontrollably, already fearing for the worst. I was found to be in preterm labor and dilated to 3 cm with contractions not responding to any medication. Ultrasound confirmed abruption and I underwent complicated emergency cesarean section with a classical incision instead of the usual one, which means I was advised to wait 6-9 months until we can try to conceive again. Nothing can replace Theo but I’m desperately longing to hold a little one in my arms again to fill this gaping void. I plan to wait until 4-6 months and then seek fertility treatment again to conceive. My fear is that I will have a difficult road to get pregnant and may even suffer miscarriages along the way before I can become pregnant. After that, I know that I will endlessly stress about the pregnancy itself. I don’t think I can even feel reassured until I hold a healthy baby safely in my arms. I just want time to fast forward to that moment.
Thank you to everyone else for sharing your stories of sorrow and hope. May your little angels Rest In Peace.
Thank you for sharing your sorry and I’m sorry for your loss. I too went through a similar loss with my son and first baby Theodore (Theo) on 9/9/19. We became pregnant after a cycle of clomid/IUI after having issues with infertility. Theo was born at 23 weeks and passed away on his 5th day in the NICU. I had a somewhat uneventful pregnancy initially but did not have chance to connect with him as I had an anterior placenta and was hardly able to feel his movements. I remember presenting to labor and delivery the day before with irregular “abdominal tightening” and 2 streaks of bloody mucus but was discharged home with possible BV infection and asked to drink more water (no ultrasound was ever done). The next day on 9/9, I started feeling intense cramping every 2-3 minutes in the evening and then all of sudden large amount of bloody discharge. I can remember that moment I saw the blood and broke down crying uncontrollably, already fearing for the worst. I was found to be in preterm labor and dilated to 3 cm with contractions not responding to any medication. Ultrasound confirmed abruption and I underwent complicated emergency cesarean section with a classical incision instead of the usual one, which means I was advised to wait 6-9 months until we can try to conceive again. Nothing can replace Theo but I’m desperately longing to hold a little one in my arms again to fill this gaping void. I plan to wait until 4-6 months and then seek fertility treatment again to conceive. My fear is that I will have a difficult road to get pregnant and may even suffer miscarriages along the way before I can become pregnant. After that, I know that I will endlessly stress about the pregnancy itself. I don’t think I can even feel reassured until I hold a healthy baby safely in my arms. I just want time to fast forward to that moment.
Thank you to everyone else for sharing your stories of sorrow and hope. May your little angels Rest In Peace.
October 12, 2019 |
Theo’s Mom

Silas' Mommy,
I just lost my son, Silas, on November 1st at 15 weeks due to a placental abruption. Just seeing your post, and knowing our angel boys have the same name, was a shock to me reading this. But all these posts and comments give me hope that we can try again and make things work out this time.
I just lost my son, Silas, on November 1st at 15 weeks due to a placental abruption. Just seeing your post, and knowing our angel boys have the same name, was a shock to me reading this. But all these posts and comments give me hope that we can try again and make things work out this time.
November 7, 2019 |
Kayla

I lost my 4th baby due too a placenta abruption really wanting to try for another baby but so scared of it happening again or something happing too me n leaving behind my three other kids 😭😭😭
January 15, 2020 |
Cassie

Hi Cassie
So sorry to read about your devastating loss. Your situation sounds similar to mine (I posted a message above) A cause for my abruption wasn’t found :( I went on to have another baby the following year & I was very scared of the same things as you. I was closely monitored & the hospital let me admit myself to stay on a ward during the final week while I waited for an elective c-section at 37 weeks. Sending you hope. L
So sorry to read about your devastating loss. Your situation sounds similar to mine (I posted a message above) A cause for my abruption wasn’t found :( I went on to have another baby the following year & I was very scared of the same things as you. I was closely monitored & the hospital let me admit myself to stay on a ward during the final week while I waited for an elective c-section at 37 weeks. Sending you hope. L
January 15, 2020 |
L

I never knew the cause of mine either how long did u wait until u got pregnant again?
January 15, 2020 |
Cassie

I was advised to wait at least 6 months to ttc again (at least a year would of been advisable, but because of my age (40 at the time) the consult agreed wait at least 6 months before trying again. I did & conceived approx 9 moths after the abruption.
January 15, 2020 |
L

In my case they told me my baby lost all the fluids around him but that’s all the info I have bout what happen
January 16, 2020 |
Cassie

To all the moms out there - I’d like to thank you for sharing your stories and placenta abruption journeys... I am humbled at the fact that I and my 3rd child, survived our placenta abruption, it was the worst experience I’ve ever went through as a mommy, coded and all... but thankfully, she is now going on 9 months and I am currently 2 months pregnant with my 4th baby but 1st pregnancy after my 1st placenta abruption... I cant helped but worry as my last pregnancy was the worst throughout the entire journey and scary/traumatic at delivery... but being able to say both baby and I survived gives me the hope and confidence that this current pregnancy will be fine... again, I’m encouraged and full of hope after ready everyone’s post.. so thank you fellow moms out there and sorry for all the losses that were shared.. please know your words shared have touched my heart and wishing you all well..
February 9, 2020 |
Angie

I am a week and day past having a placental abruption and I was much less in weeks than a lot of you — 14 weeks. I gave birth to our sweet Salem. We have endured a chemical pregnancy and now this — my fiancé and I have kids, I have two from a previous relationship and he has one. We’ve always looked at having our own with excitement and kind of one of those things that binds us. I have an appointment today by phone since this COVID-19 has been going on with a fertility specialist (I had actually had this appointment from us trying made many months ago but forgot to cancel it) — they called me literally the day after we lost Salem and asked if I was still interested in having the appointment... we do very badly want to have a baby and normally I’m the type of person who is GAME! I’m ready to go again, take each day as it’s given... I’m not a very religious person, I have faith in my own ways, but right now I am not able to really hold onto it. I feel silly praying at times, thinking and saying to myself that I’m not being listened to, LOOK what just happened... I’m angry... but I do want to try again... I’m just so so so scared. What if it happens again? I feel like I’m living on a lot of “what if’s” lately — and I don’t like it. Reading some of your guys’ success stories GIVES me hope, but I feel so freaking lost. I know in time I’ll make peace... I just wish I had the answers to WHY — and will it happen again? Will we be able to have a successful pregnancy? I’ve had two successful pregnancies in the past... so why not now? We got Salem cremated, so she will be home with us soon. I’ll feel better once she is here. I’m sorry for rambling... I feel like I don’t know who I can talk to anymore. I send hope and baby dust to all you that are trying! I hope you get your rainbow.
April 2, 2020 |
Kayla Marie

Hi just had placenta abrution at 34wks abd was in the hospital when it happened 13mins too slow it has been the hardest week of my life but I think I would like to try again in the future but I’d be scared incase it happens again
May 4, 2020 |
Claire

I have 6 beautiful children so it was a big surprise to me when I found out I was pregnant in 2019 sadly that baby ended in a miscarriage at 8 weeks along. I was sad of course but my sadness didn’t last long when I found out I was pregnant again in 2019. The pregnancy progressed fine and normal. Made it all the way to 37 weeks which is something for me because I never make it pass 36 weeks before I go into labor. Baby was always moving and very active. Either had hiccups or just was kicking my ribs all the time. One night (May 1st) I felt the baby wasn’t moving at all and wasn’t responding to anything I did. No movement. Baby was completely still. I walked to the kitchen to tell my husband that the baby wasn’t moving. I knew my baby was dead but I didn’t want to believe it. He woke the rest of our children, who were sleeping peacefully in their beds. They got up and sleepily put their shoes on and then we were gone. We made it to the hospital, he couldn’t come in so he told me he was taking the kids home. I tried to shake the feeling that something was wrong, all the while knowing that something was wrong. I was sent to the labor and delivery floor. I was given a room and the nurse hooked me up to the monitor. She couldn’t find a heart beat and she tried to remain positive. She went and got an ultrasound machine and returned with the doctor as the doctor did a scan I was able to see my baby. No movement. “I’m sorry. Your babies heart is not beating. Is there someone who can come be with you?” I told them no and for some reason even though I knew my baby was gone. I could not even shed a tear. I sent my husband a text “The baby is dead” I was beyond ready to go home and get everything over with. I had to be induced. I had to push my baby out still. My husband is emotionally broken and has cried multiple times and I’m yet to cry even the one time. But I am grieving. I am no stranger to pain. This is my second loss. 1 miscarriage and 1 stillborn. I’d like to try again but I am so nervous and scared. I’m sure we will eventually start trying once more. Everyone’s story of success after a stillbirth has given me hope.
May 5, 2020 |
Mommy to 678

Glad I stumbled on this page full of bittersweet hopeful stories. I lost my angel baby girl two weeks ago due to placental abruption at 19 weeks. Besides being “early” for placental abruption, I also had started spotting and then bleeding at 15w1d. It was an incredibly stressful month and while every scan and hospital and doctor visit said everything was fine and baby was growing and moving, my mom instincts knew things weren’t right. I am in the healing stage but very much want to try to conceive again. I’m worried too, of course. I had none of the risk factors and I plan to see a specialist if I get pregnant, but I just wonder if I had something else going on since it wasn’t as sudden (or, thank god, as late term) as most placental abruption I hear about. This was my second pregnancy. My first was the most uncomplicated pregnancy ever — down to delivery In her due date within26 minutes If getting to the hospital — I was active throughout, including weekly warm yoga and running up until the day a fire I delivered then resuming “jogging” 7 days after delivery. The second pregnancy was much like the first, morning sickness and tired the first trimester, but no signs of anything wrong until the spotting. Is there any way to find any kind of confidence for a post abruption pregnancy? My doctor is going to do a blood clotting test. But is there anything else to try?
June 28, 2020 |
CM

We lost our third son in September after birth to a 100% placental abruption. He was 37w 1 d. Silas was perfect. He has two older brothers ages 2& 4. Our oldest misses his littlest brother fiercly. Our whole pregnancy with Silas was uneventful until that awful day. We were taken to the hospital via ambulance and I was able to be saved. Devastatingly he was not. Mourning Silas is all consuming.
I am so thrilled to become pregnant just 4 months after his birh, but the emotions of still grieving him and being pregnant are too much.
I am so worried this will happen again but earlier in pregnancy. I am confident I would recognize the signs and be to the hospital in time but if it happens before the third trimester is my worst fear.
I desperately want a baby this side of heaven.
Has anyone had two placental abruptions in a row??
Silas' birthday and the rainbow baby's birthday will be the same week. Any advice on how to survive this rainbow pregnancy????
I know I'm rambling but thanks in advance for any advice.