ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > A little bit too much
Hi K,
My brother's wife did the same thing to us - a photo on facebook of their 12 week ultrasound announcing their pregnancy 8 weeks after my still birth last year.
Unfortunately a lot of people don't see past their own front door when it comes to problems and hurting people. It's been a year and I cant forgive them for being so callous but I've tried to block it out - I rarely see them so don't have to think about it too often.
My best friend is also just around the corner from having her first child. She has been my rock for the past year and a half.
I think how I've reacted to pregnancies and babies since David was stillborn has very much depended (in hindsight) on how the people involved supported us during the past 18 months. The people who empathised and comforted, I was happy for their pegnancies and babies but the others... well, I've essentially cut those people out of my life by now. As another woman wrote here, if they can't be there for the tough times, they don't deserve to be there for the good times... kind of my new mantra since I read it.
I totally get your happy-sad-angry. I hear you.
My brother's wife did the same thing to us - a photo on facebook of their 12 week ultrasound announcing their pregnancy 8 weeks after my still birth last year.
Unfortunately a lot of people don't see past their own front door when it comes to problems and hurting people. It's been a year and I cant forgive them for being so callous but I've tried to block it out - I rarely see them so don't have to think about it too often.
My best friend is also just around the corner from having her first child. She has been my rock for the past year and a half.
I think how I've reacted to pregnancies and babies since David was stillborn has very much depended (in hindsight) on how the people involved supported us during the past 18 months. The people who empathised and comforted, I was happy for their pegnancies and babies but the others... well, I've essentially cut those people out of my life by now. As another woman wrote here, if they can't be there for the tough times, they don't deserve to be there for the good times... kind of my new mantra since I read it.
I totally get your happy-sad-angry. I hear you.
October 29, 2015 |
David's mum
I love and miss my boys so so much.