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I'm close to 9 weeks pregnant, still not showing but getting a bit chubby already. We're also coming up on our daughter's first birthday. There are a lot of emotions right now and I thought I would reach out to see if there are any other early pregnancies. Seems like the other "October Pregnancy" thread are mostly moms who are further along...
Hi Idealist, I am also in early pregnancy. I am at 8 weeks. We did IVF with PGD, so the first trimester screening is not as much as a point of concern, but that does not mean other things can't go wrong!
I am coming up to my son's 2nd birth anniversary in January, but he was due in late December, so the holidays in general are especially tough for me.
I also had a miscarriage earlier this year and that pregnancy would have been due in early November, so this lead up to my son's birth anniversary has been made even more difficult. It is comforting to be pregnant with a pregnancy that is progressing well so far going into this time, but this pregnancy does weigh more heavily on me and I find it hard to be excited.
It's nice not to be showing so this isn't a "public" pregnancy yet, but I do find myself just waiting for the next appointment, the next ultrasound, or the next event. I'm trying to be patient and enjoy every moment with this baby b/c you never know how long it will last, but then there is another part of me that is just fast forwarding to May of next year.
We also have a 4 year old daughter and the death of her baby sister has been really hard on her. I desperately want to tell her but I just don't think that is fair in case something else goes wrong. I also know that once we tell her, she'll tell the whole world. So I have to be prepared for that as well.
I know this is a special time, when this pregnancy is just mine and my husbands. I just wish I was more patient.
Hi Idealist and TV, It feels good to read your posts. I too am very impatient, I keep on projecting into the future and the past comparing with last year when I was pregnant with Alistair (there is one year and two months difference). I've been so tired and cried a lot walking back home this week. On Monday I went for a sonogram and was so moved to see the little embryo move its legs and arms. I'd forgotten how beautiful it was. Take good care of you.
I am also in early pregnancy. I am at 8 weeks. We did IVF with PGD, so the first trimester screening is not as much as a point of concern, but that does not mean other things can't go wrong!
I am coming up to my son's 2nd birth anniversary in January, but he was due in late December, so the holidays in general are especially tough for me.
I also had a miscarriage earlier this year and that pregnancy would have been due in early November, so this lead up to my son's birth anniversary has been made even more difficult.
It is comforting to be pregnant with a pregnancy that is progressing well so far going into this time, but this pregnancy does weigh more heavily on me and I find it hard to be excited.
How are you doing so far?
We also have a 4 year old daughter and the death of her baby sister has been really hard on her. I desperately want to tell her but I just don't think that is fair in case something else goes wrong. I also know that once we tell her, she'll tell the whole world. So I have to be prepared for that as well.
I know this is a special time, when this pregnancy is just mine and my husbands. I just wish I was more patient.