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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > Another miscarriage

So we got the ok to try again from maternal fetal. And low and behold the first month we conceived! However, at 5.5 weeks I started to miscarry. To make matters worse, it was the day before our daughter's first birthday (whom passed in Dec).

I just don't know. Part of me wants to try again, as we desperately want a healthy baby. But part of me wonders.... Is my body just telling me over and over I'm not supposed to have a baby?

So lost
July 1, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterMm
I'm so sorry. Much love to you.
July 2, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterKelly
To echo Kelly, I am so sorry. I wish I understood why this happen....or more than that, I wish I had the power to make it stop. I hope that you find peace with whatever decision you come to. Thinking of you and your sweet babies.
July 2, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterRuby's Mom
Mm, I'm sorry for your losses. Recurrent loss is very cruel. I lost two babies in the second trimester and then had a first tri loss in between my two living children (who are 6 years apart as a result). It was devastating, so I'm sorry for your pain and understand not being sure about trying again. I wouldn't have after my second loss except that I saw Dr Kwak-Kim in Chicago and felt confident in her protocol. However I still had to endure one more loss (a blighted ovum so just bad luck/age and different from the 2nd trimester losses).

I hope you have some supportive people around you, and that you can make the right decision for yourself. I took a 10 month break from TTC after my second loss. It may take time for you to decide, too. Sending love your way...
July 5, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterLhotse
The same thing happened to us in March. Our daughter was born still last October, we got pregnant on the first shot in February and when we went for our first ultrasound, there was no heartbeat. It was so cruel. Our midwives told us that 1 in 3 pregnancies end in miscarriage and that it was just bad luck but it felt horrible.

I can't say much other than to say that my thoughts are with you and you aren't alone.
July 8, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterIdealist
Also, just give yourself some time. I thought the same thing when I saw there was no heartbeat on the screen.

But it's been a few months for us and we're considering trying again.

Be kind to yourself.
July 8, 2015 | Unregistered CommenterIdealist