We lost our daughter at 35 weeks last October. We waited two cycles before we started trying to conceive again. In February to our surprise, we got a positive pregnancy test. Then at our first doctors appointment, there was no heartbeat. I was about 9 weeks but the baby measured about 6 weeks 5 days. I am in the process of completing the miscarriage process.

Luckily we're doing okay. It just sucks big time. I'm wondering if we should have waited longer to TTC but we didn't think we would have gotten pregnant so quickly. I think we're going to take a break from baby making for a while but I wondered if anyone else had experienced a second loss after a stillbirth.

I'm almost 36 years old so I know I can't wait a long time before trying again and theres a huge part of me that doesn't want to be pregnant again, I just want a baby. I realize I can't have my daughter who passed, but I just want to skip ahead to that newborn stage.

Would love thoughts.

The universe is cruel. I am so sorry for both of your losses! I am glad to hear that you feel that you are coping ok, considering the circumstances. I have no experience to share. I just wanted you to know I am thinking of you.

I am sorry you lost your daughter so recently and are now dealing with a miscarriage loss. Did you name your daughter that you lost in October?

I too wish I could skip ever getting pregnant again and go straight to bringing a baby home. I am in my late 30's and I lost my son a year ago. I too am feeling very rushed to get pregnant again.

I am glad to hear you and your partner are doing OK with all you have been through. I hope you continue to be gentle on yourselves and know that you're not alone.

Hi, I am so sorry for your losses! It is very heartbreaking to experience loss upon loss, especially when you are holding onto the hope that it will be your rainbow baby. Yes, I've had three losses since our son was delivered stillborn in June 2013 due to a placental abruption at 38.4w. We waited 6 months to try again and conceived the first month. We had a wonderful first ultrasound with a heartbeat and went in for the 2nd ultrasound at 10w and there was no heartbeat. I had a D&C. We were incredibly devastated and felt like the scab had been ripped back off. We decided to wait several months to give us more time to take care of ourselves. 7 months later I had a chemical pregnancy.. The cycle after that I was pregnant with a girl, and we lost her at 13w3d due to trisomy 13 and alobar holoprosencephaly. We can now start trying again, and I found out today that I have an ovarian cyst! I definitely understand your wish to skip the pregnancy part and be able to bring a newborn home. It is a marathon of a journey. My biggest piece of advice would be to ask all the questions you have

Oops, that sent too soon. I am thinking of you with lots of love.

Thanks so much. I think we just thought that our stillbirth was an anomaly and we were ready to get pregnant again and start the healing process in a different way with a promise of another child. We're going to take a break from baby making for a while. I'm going to focus on losing some post-baby weight and generally try to take care of myself. I was doing a good job, but pregnancy is just so hard on your body, I think it may have been silly to think that I would be physically ready so soon after a loss.

Life is mysterious. I wish it was easier.

I experienced an early m/c 4 months after my son was stillborn at full-term. It sucked to say the least. I remember feeling like I had the wind knocked out of me and just felt so hopelessly unlucky. I did the same as you, focused on getting healthy, losing the weight and grieving. Sending you much love to get through the days and weeks ahead.

I'm sorry for your loss im sending warm good thoughts your way. Our Dr gave us the green light to start trying again I got excited and terrified at the same time she told me that once I get pregnant she's gonna put me on aspirin and something else to prevent me from miscarriaging at this point I will take/do anything to have a healthy baby in my arms. I suggest you ask your dr about it. I came across this article while researching I hope it helps.

http://www.parentdish.co.uk/pregnancy-and-birth/recurrent-miscarriage-hughes-syndrome-treatment-aspirin/

Yes the universe is cruel so unfair. But if you we're ready please don't give up hope. It will happen. I'm sorry for you're losses of you're daughter and miscarriage. Lots of strength sent to you

I'm so sorry to hear of all your losses.

We lost our daughter in November 2013, and waited a few months before ttc. It took almost a year for us to conceive again. We had our first scan last Monday, and saw our little bean with a nice strong heartbeat. I started spotting on Tuesday, and a further scan today showed no heartbeat...

I'm now waiting to complete the miscarriage process, so idealist, we're in a similar place just now. I feel for you so much, loss upon loss is so cruel, and having to sit around waiting for it to happen is torture..
LX

Oh Stella's Mum I'm so sorry to hear this! How are you doing? What a horrible, cruel thing to happen...especially after the hope you probably felt during that first scan. I can totally relate to what you are going through, it is such a defeating blow and I hope you are doing OK.

Idealist, I'm sorry this happened to you too. I had a miscarriage in Feb after losing my son last April. I really didn't think anything would happen a second time round, so was really shocked and obviously upset about it. You are right, life is mysterious and I wish I understood why bad things like this happen to good people.

Thinking of you all today.

Hi,
My husband and I just went though a very similar situation, and I was browsing the Internet to find someone who had been in our shoes. This can be quite a lonely process, and it's been comforting to find people who have (unfortunately) gone through the same experience. We found out our sweet daughter had Turner's Syndrome at our 20 week appointment in October. We stayed hopeful she would be okay, but found out three weeks later (in November) that she had passed. We spent several months grieving and decided to start trying again (with encouragement from our doctors) in March. We were so excited to find out we were pregnant in early April, but again our hearts were broken when we were told our little one had passed at our 8 week appointment this past week. It has been so hard, and I feel as hopeless as I did in November. I am sending out love and prayers for your losses and am here if anyone ever needs to talk.

I am so sorry for everybody's losses. My husband and I are in the same situation. We lost our son Dylan at 33 weeks due to placental abruption in July. We waited 7 months to try for another child and got pregnant in the second month. However, when we went to our confirmation appointment in April at 7 weeks 5 days, we found out that the pregnancy was a blighted ovum - the placenta was developing but the embryo was not. I had a D&C a week later. Having a miscarriage after losing our son brought back the deeper feelings of loss and sorrow. We are now trying to regain some sense of ourselves. It is so hard to muster up the energy to try again for another child. I feel some peace in the love I have for my sweet baby Dylan. Hoping for better days ahead for us all.