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Jen, remembering Aiden with you; I hope the day isn't too difficult and you have some gentle moments.
For everyone else, sending much luck and love to everyone. xoxo
For everyone else, sending much luck and love to everyone. xoxo
January 2, 2011 |
Monique
Monique
2 days late from me, but remembering your beautiful Aiden with you Jen, for now and for the days/ weeks / months / years ahead. Wishing you some comfort from somewhere, when you need it most.
January 3, 2011 |
Sophia
Sophia
Hi Jen,
You have hit on something I have been thinking about a lot, people remembering my son. I still feel very vulnerable and exposed and so need to prepare myself for these things and try to understand peoples behavior to protect myself. The way I've chosen to deal with this was by deciding a while back that it was 'our thing', myself and my husbands, our son to think about, ours to remember. I have become very tolerant of what people say or don't say, for the most part I think they mean well but are ill equipped to handle the situation. Forgiveness has been powerful for me,I like to think that is one of the lessons from my son. I like to think that people not doing things or not telling me they remember him doesn't mean that they aren't, I do think they think about us and him, in fact I can see it written on peoples faces (which is a whole other thing!). Of course I would like to hear it more and am so touched when someone does it but I think It will be our thing. Its working right now but who knows.
Remembering little Aiden with you. Sending you peace.
You have hit on something I have been thinking about a lot, people remembering my son. I still feel very vulnerable and exposed and so need to prepare myself for these things and try to understand peoples behavior to protect myself. The way I've chosen to deal with this was by deciding a while back that it was 'our thing', myself and my husbands, our son to think about, ours to remember. I have become very tolerant of what people say or don't say, for the most part I think they mean well but are ill equipped to handle the situation. Forgiveness has been powerful for me,I like to think that is one of the lessons from my son. I like to think that people not doing things or not telling me they remember him doesn't mean that they aren't, I do think they think about us and him, in fact I can see it written on peoples faces (which is a whole other thing!). Of course I would like to hear it more and am so touched when someone does it but I think It will be our thing. Its working right now but who knows.
Remembering little Aiden with you. Sending you peace.
January 3, 2011 |
seb
seb
Jen, sorry i think I got a bit confused, I mean to post my last post in your other topic and then started a new week here not being sure that this was a new week topic, drat, apologies!
January 3, 2011 |
seb
seb
I'm hoping that 2011 treats us all better than the previous years. Today is the one year anniversary of Aiden's birth. I had planned to be out of town but it wasn't too bad being home. I got two messages - one from my sister, and one from a total stranger - that made the day easier to bear. Mostly I'm glad this horrible year is over, but I wish I had something more to look forward to.
I'm thinking of all of you out there who are missing your babies and hoping you have some peace tonight. For those of you waiting to greet your new little miracles, I am sending calm and hopeful thought. For those of you still trying, I'm sending fertile thoughts.