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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

ttc | pregnancy | birth after loss > New week: November 22

Hi, everyone. I wish I were starting us off with a better post, but I'm 16 weeks today and I started spotting last night. Low back pain, cramps, and some other issues that feel like TMI at the moment. I am waiting to hear back from my doctor but this is so much like the last time that I don't really feel like there is any hope.

I hope everyone else is having a much better morning than I am.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterBeth
Oh Beth, I truly hope that these symptoms are nothing to worry about and that you hear back from your doctor soon. You are in my thoughts xo
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCatherine W
Oh, Beth, I'm so sorry that you're having this scare. Sending you so much love and hope. I'll be thinking of you nonstop, please update when you can.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterM
Sending positive thoughts. Hoping all will somehow be miraculously okay.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMerry
Sending love and thoughts, Beth.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSarah N.
Oh, Beth. I truly hope that things are okay. You'll be in my thoughts.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSteph
Beth, I am so sorry that this is happening. I'm hoping this is not what you think it is. Sending you positive thoughts.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterbrianna
Thank you so much for the good thoughts -- the baby looked good, my cervix is still long, no active bleeding. The placenta is covering the cervix so that probably caused the bleeding. Hopefully it will shift upward as the pregnancy progresses.

I am still feeling a little unsettled, honestly, because I am crampy and I have a dull ache in my lower back, but the appointment eased my immediate worries.

How is everybody else doing?
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterBeth
That's wonderful news, Beth!! I'm glad your doctor got you a scan right away.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSteph
I'm so glad Beth. That is great news and I hope the cramping eases up soon.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterCatherine W
Whew!! So glad, Beth.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterM
Beth, that is very reassuring news.

I've yet to officially introduce myself here, although I've been wandering in and out for a few weeks now. After nearly eight months since George died, we are starting to try again. Kind of freaked out about it but I feel like it is time to do this. Sigh. So many mixed emotions...
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterbrianna
Beth so glad things are still going well. I think feeling unsettled is something that comes with pregnancy after loss. It is unfortunate that enjoying pregnancy seems to take a lot of work these days.
With my two previous pregnancies, I had never felt better, or sexier. I loved showing off the curvy body a baby provides. These days I just wander around hoping no one notices the baby bump. Which is getting to be noticible these days, even back into my maternity clothing. I am just glad things are going well. I have an appointment Wed morning to talk the the Dr about the c section. I am very excited and nervous to have a birthday for this pregnancy. We didn't really plan very well. the due date is May 29th, my daughters were born on May 20th, Ella went to heaven that day too. I am hopeful that they agree to take this baby before the 20th.
Anyway I am rambling, hope some of this makes sence.
Hope everyone has a good week.
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterNatalie
Beth - glad the news was good. Really really glad.

Natalie - we're due 2 days apart. :)

AFM - i'm here. The baby is fluttering me sporadically. I'm starting to bump a little, and did the first of two 2-hour gestational diabetes tests on the weekend. The next one will be in 11 weeks. I'm also starting to feel good. I find I don't really want to talk about this pregnancy - not because I'm superstitious but more because I've done this before. It's not new and so I'm ok to focus on something else.

All in all I'm ok. Just really ok.

Foster was born 8 months ago tomorrow. 8 months ago I was labouring in a grief-induced haze while Karl taught me about curling (it was on TV). I am thankful to be all the way over here instead of back there.

Sending love
S
November 22, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSarah H
Beth - so glad everything's looking good. Sending good thoughts your way.

I have my big scan on Friday, feeling pretty good this week as I can feel the baby moving lots. (when I'm quiet). My bump is huge, way into maternity clothes, and still have had no awkward questions or conversations. Plugging along!

Hope everyone's doing well.
November 23, 2010 | Unregistered Commenterrachel
I'm 7 weeks today and have felt horrible the past two days. I guess I should be thankful for morning/afternoon sickness. A coworker walked past my desk saying "smile, it's almost the holiday". I wanted to scream and punch her... or throw up on her. They just don't have a clue.

Glad to hear good news from so many. I am truly thankful for this place and for people who really understand where I've been and where I'm at now. Sending happy thoughts to all.
November 23, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterSusan
I'm here. I'm either 6 or 7 DPO and had a temp dip yesterday and it is much higher today. I did start the progesterone early as I was afraid my lining would be too weak if I waited till I got a positive; I normally bleed at 11 days and realistically might not have a positive by then anyway. It's too early but I need to test anyway; so far nothing.

I don't know why but unlike every other month where I thought 'maybe' this month I just think 'I don't think so'. Perhaps because if I am and this doesn't work, I'm sunk.
November 23, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMerry
To all of the pregnant mammas I am sending positive thoughts and strength.

I got my first AF after Cullen on Sunday- except it was not due until Friday! 8 day LP- not awesome. I may be taking femara this cycle- I have to decide today as it is CD 3.
Has anyone else used it? Just wondering..... I know it helps with OV (in 'normal' cycles I always OV late- like day 22!) and now this crazy short LP has me all up in a tizzy.....
November 23, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLeslie
I am glad to hear things are going well for all the pregnant mamas here.

I am on CD 12 and for some reason hopeful. Maybe all the exercise I am doing, maybe the water color workshop I am attending, or maybe the homeopathic medicine I am taking. For some reason I feel mentally better. I hope I do get pregnant soon, because I don't know how long the good days will last. Keep your fingers crossed for me!
November 23, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterFrancisca
Bah. How depressing all this is that I've written this month off because I am only getting negatives at 8DPO.
Bah. Bah. Bah.
November 25, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterMerry
hoping everyone is still doing ok.

i've been popping in and out this week and reading all the updates but just haven't really felt like talking. not sure why.

i'm now ten weeks. my dating scan is on thursday. i'll be 10+6, but when i went for my last scan on 8+4 the baby measured 9+1, so i'm kind of hoping that the baby measures 11+ weeks by that stage, or i'll be really worried that it's developing too slowly (or too irregularly - 7 days before that it had only been 7+1).

it was the anniversary of finding out the baby had died on thursday. the anniversary of the miscarriage actually happening is monday. it's really hard to understand that a whole year has passed. but the anniversary was easier than i expected.

hope thanksgiving was ok for those who celebrate it. i know these holidays can be incredibly hard. i hope you had supportive people around.

sending love to you all x
November 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterB
Thinking of you B....
November 27, 2010 | Unregistered CommenterLeslie