So..DH got un-snipped on Monday. HOORAY. The doc told us there were "lots of beautiful sperm" (his words, which I mercilessly teased DH about) So now we just have to wait for healing an the oportune time to TTC.

But, I can't figure out which books I should have in my arsenal. I am reading reviews of the very few pregnancy after loss books available on Amazon. They all seem to be at least 10 years-old. While they will do for now, they won't have very up-to date resources.
Does anyone have book recommendations to "keep me from going batshit crazy while pregnant?" (my explanation to DH of why I need to scour Powell's today.)

You guys are awesome and supportive an wonderful, but I really need some hard copy to turn to in the middle of the night or whatever.

I was given a copy of 'Empty cradle, broken heart' - it was great. I'm also reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth to re-normalize childbirth (or to remind myself that my experience is not the norm).

As for what to read when you are pregnant again? I have no idea but I'll be following this thread too.

I know what you mean about the books being so old! I got two books shorty after my daughter died: 'Pregnancy after a Loss' by Carol Cirulli Lanham, and 'Tying Again' by Ann Douglas.
I really like the first one, 'pregnancy after a loss'. Both of these books are 10 years old, and I haven't found anything newer either. I can't say whether or not they will help in the subsequent pregnancy, as I'm just newly pregnant, but it's worth a try, right?

If anyone knows any more recent books, I'd love to hear!

I was given a copy of Pregnancy After Loss, and it's ok, not as supportive as here, but something to flip through in my dark moments. I liked the way it was split into trimesters , so I could just read the bits relevant to me without panicking. Although I did sometimes sneak a peek ahead. x

I've heard that "I will carry you" and "A perfect replica of a figment of my imagination" are both excellent - once I put them into amazon, it then started to give me suggestions of others with reviews.

I've not read anything yet.

Sorry, realised after I put that you meant pregnancy books. *Must not answer forum posts while trying to teach decimals to fractions in lowest common denominator to 10 year olds....*

I would not recommend reading "A Perfect Replica of a Figment of my Imagination" if you are having difficulty conceiving. She gets pregnant again really fast, and then to me it felt like there was this sort of "all better now" feeling as soon as the second baby was born. It kind of tore me up since there do not appear to be any subsequent pregnancies in my future.

But I can see how it might be comforting if you are in the middle of a subsequent pregnancy.

After our precious Luca died at 41 weeks (still battle with the thought that if I'd just had her on my due date, she might still be with me!!) I absolutely devoured any book I could get my hands on. Empty-Cradle is a good one - but I bought 2 really new publications that helped me. I live in Sydney, so they are both written by Australians - but both have really good (and up to date) info and they both have sections on subsequent pregnancies.

1. Small Miracles - coping with infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth. By Rachel Stanfield Porter & the Bonnie Babes Foundation.
2. Pregnancy Loss - Surviving miscarriage and stillbirth. By Zoe Taylor.

I've also met with an amazing counsellor who connects women in Sydney during their subsequent pregnancies. I can't wait to be part of that group...but it's only been 4 months since That Terrible Day...so, sooon, hopefully very soon!

Thanks folks. My therapist loaned me a copy of "Pregnancy after a Loss" ( we all know how much I hate the term "loss")

Here's the book I want. "Things Might be okay or might not be okay if you decide to have another baby. And you may or may not want to get this type of care and This is how to learn to trust your body and the process of childbearing again, etc..."

I wish that was a book.