My son, A, who is 5 and just started kindergarten spent a good 10 minutes today imagining what it would be like to play with his big sister in the backyard. He was so sweet. Do you think she’d like riding my truck (a push truck he liked when he was a toddler). Do you think we’d race? And on and on…and then “but I can’t play with her because she’s dead.” Yes, she is but you are such a sweet boy to miss her.

I overheard my 3.5-year-old matter-of-factly explaining to her baby sister that we will be having birthday cake for their big sister soon and "she can't eat it because she's dead, but we can still all celebrate with cake".

Such beautiful and sweet ways that kids find to love and acknowledge our missing family members. Thanks for sharing, AB.

That is so sweet K West. Thanks for sharing that too.

Those moments are so precious, each and every one of them.
Your son is such a good little brother.

I love it when my girls includes little miss S when they play or when they are talking. They even includes here in their drama as well some times, saying things like “miss S would have been on my side, she wold have liked me the best”

My youngest started first grade this fall, and for here family portrait drawing she included little miss S as the sweetest little ghost you’ve ever seen.

Thanks for sharing that Scandinavian endo-girl. Your girls are so sweet to think of their sister, little miss S, and include her. Much love to you and yours.

My 3yo and 1yo DDs are right at the age where they could have some understanding of their big brother. I said something once when my older daughter was asking about babies or brothers or something, and waited for her to ask more which she hasn't. Does anyone have any recommendations for resources or tactics to talk about babies who were stillborn before siblings arrived?

Hi SR, a fellow loss parent recently recommended this book “my perfectly imperfect family” and I love it. Here’s a link: https://www.amazon.com/Perfectly-Imperfect-Family-Amie-Lands/dp/173348180X/ref=nodl_


Good luck.