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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

parenting after loss > Holiday Traditions

Hello ladies,
This will be our second Christmas without Mateo. Last year I wanted nothing to do with the holidays that I simply would stay home instead of going to family/friends gatherings. This year, however, I feel a bit less ‘numb’ and more present for my two living boys. My question is, we have a stocking for each of them and I am struggling with what to put in Mateo’s - I know it is all symbolic but I don’t want to see his empty while the other two are full of hotwheels and chocolate! My sister suggested flower seeds so next spring we can add them to his garden (isn’t that a lovely idea!) If you do stockings for your sweet babies gone too soon, what do you put in them? Wishing you all a gentle holiday season.
December 17, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterIsabel
We do a stocking for our son, Joseph, and we put a bouquet of flowers in it each year. A similar idea to your sister's, I guess!

Sending warm thoughts--
December 17, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterAnne
We don’t do stockings, but this year I made an ornament for all my kids, dead and living ❤️
That might be an option for you aswell :)
December 21, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterScandinavian endo-girl