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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

parenting after loss > I lost my son 3 weeks ago

I lost my son 3 weeks ago tomorrow he was just a day old. I need to know if it gets any easier I can't cope with loosing him I'm completely lost I feel like life has no meaning I have a 5 year old daughter who I'm trying to be strong for but I just can't I struggle to get out of bed every morning I can't find a reason to do anything i don't want to leave the house and I don't want to join in on meaningless small talk how do I go on with no hope for the future what's the point when life can be so cruel
August 1, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterMasons mum
Mason's Mum, I'm so sorry you lost your sweet boy. It is cruel, and these early days are so, so hard. I'm so glad that you found glow. It's a safe place to bring all the things you are feeling, and to find others who have suffered the same terrible loss. I'm four years out, and I can tell you that for me it has gotten easier. I still miss my daughter every day, but I am no longer wracked with pain each time I think of her. I remember it being so difficult to parent my living child during the early days of my grief. I was crying all the time. I think sometimes it really helped to be able cuddle my son, to read to him, other times I would sob through the stories I read him. Be gentle and kind to yourself, I hope you are able to find small things that can comfort you as you make your way through these first weeks. XO
August 1, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterAurelia
I am only a few months out from losing my daughter, but I want to say that it already has gotten slightly better for me. I can go for longer stretches without crying, leave the house for errands, etc.
It doesn't really feel any less painful, but I've adapted slightly to the enormity of this loss and have started to learn to live with it. Please be kind to yourself, find a support group that is helpful to you if you can, and allow yourself to grieve your precious son Mason in the way that serves you most. In the beginning, it is enough just to get through the day. Take any small victories you can get as you start down this very long journey, and know that there are others out there who have walked a similar path and survived. Sending love into the universe for Mason, and for you & the rest of your family.
August 4, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterKestrel's Mama
Mason's Mum:

I am 8 years out from losing my son, Sam, to a stillbirth at 38 weeks. Time doesn't heal, but it does create a buffer between you and the raw, uncontrollable feelings that are all consuming right after losing your sweet baby. It will get better, but unfortunately it takes time. I used to get tired of people telling me that time heals all wounds. I don't believe I will ever be healed, but things have definitely improved. Give yourself time. Be gentle with yourself. Keep moving forward while remembering your boy.

Hugs to you,
August 8, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterJenny