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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

parenting after loss > Two year old's dental┬átroubles...

My two year old (26 months) needs extensive dental care. I feel horrible. She never drinks juice, so it could only be the overnight breastfeeding. I really feel horrible because now they need put her under so they can work on her teeth. I can't even bring myself to outline here what they need to do - I'm just so ashamed. I did hear that overnight breastfeeding could be bad, but I did not think it would be this bad. I thought I was doing her good - comforting her and giving her nourishment. Sorry to sound so hard on myself, but I need to let out some of my self hatred right now. I hope you understand.
July 19, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterAnna (mum to J and G)
Please don't feel horrible - teeth issues could also be genetic, or related to something other than breastfeeding. Many hugs.
July 19, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterEvie
Anna, please don't beat yourself up over this. I know lots of people who have done extended night time feeding and no harm has come to their babies teeth. I believe there are other factors here. You did wonderfully to feed her for so long x
July 20, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterShelby's Mum
Please try to be gentle on yourself. My son had his first set of xrays at 4 and they discovered that he had 8 cavities. I was so upset and felt like I had failed him, but I had to remind myself that he barely ate junk and I was pretty careful with his brushing and flossing. Some kids are more prone to dental problems. xo
July 30, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterR