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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

parenting after loss > Worst case scenario

I guess I'm just wanting to hear that I'm not alone in this....every time I hear about something bad happening to a child, my mind automatically creates the scenario as if it were happening to my rainbow....anything I read/see/hear about can trigger it. The past few weeks I've been worrying about cancer, abuse, I think about it I can feel my heart starting to race and the tears start to well up. I'm guessing this is just PTSD based on my losing our first son at 4 months, but is tough.
July 8, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterEm
Em, you aren't alone. I have an older son (much older - he's almost 10), and every time I read anything in the news, my heart contracts with fear and I feel as if it were happening to us. We went fresh-water swimming and I made him wear a nose plug *and* a face mask, because of the chance for amoeba. The one time he didn't wear a face mask in the water and my husband was clowning around with him and some water went up my son's nose, and I just lost it. Crying, etc. Everyone looked at me like I was insane, but in my mind...I lost my baby due to something so rare, so it could happen again. Small statistics are meaningless to me.
July 8, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterEvie
Me, too. All the time. I suppose it won't ever stop, but it is feeling less acute with my older daughter, as she is aware of her body more in space, and I can teach her about certain safety things ("Careful, edge," she repeats on the chair, the porch, the front wall). I'm sure there will be other fears that move in. It's often fatal car crashes these days.
July 11, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterBurning Eye
You're definately not alone. I am this way with my living son. Even finding it so hard to send him on a field trip tomorrow, considering following the bus and just stalking out their till their done.
July 12, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterJo-Anne