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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

parenting after loss > Should be's

My eldest living daughter started grade 1 last week and I was unexpectedly emotionally jumped with the realisation that of course, many of her classmates had siblings starting kindy (2 years below our kids).

And again I am so angry and sad that my Shelby isn't where she "should be".
February 1, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterShelby's Mum
My son also started Grade 1.It was hard seeing all the little siblings come to say bye to his classmates on the first day. My daughter would have been two and a half now. It's heart breaking Shelby's Mum. I understand your sadness and anger, I have felt it too.
February 4, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterJo-Anne
I've tired
February 7, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterScandinavian endo-girl
I've trues to answer a couple of times.
Those should be's, they are hard. I've had many, 1,5 year since little miss S had to go.
Last august, she would have started day care, but instead I hid my tears while seeing the over excited parents dropping of their babies. I se that gap, but they don't
February 11, 2016 | Unregistered CommenterScandinavian endo-girl