Did anyone join baby groups with their subsequent babies? If so, how was that? I'm considering it but worried that I'll feel so different than the other moms or even that I'll scare them off somehow.

Juliet, I joined baby centre but I have written anything on there... I simply go and read what everyone is writing. That probably doesn't help but I thought I'd share. A gentle congratulations.

I'm too scared to, I read a forum for pregnancy but often have to stop or look away when the naivety and bs concerns of first time pregos gets to me. My daughter died at 36 weeks so I hate feeling it but I just can't relate. Who knows how this will translate should I be lucky enough to bring my daughter's sibling home. I'm sorry it's hard but it's always heartening for me to know it's the same for all of us glow parents.

I have just started to take my 15 month old to Baby story time at the library. She has a blast with the other kids and loves the songs and the dancing. I don't really talk to the other Moms, I just hang out with her. When she was little I attended a breastfeeding support group sporadically and it was good too. I am not much of a joiner and don't start conversations with new people easily so Grace never really came up. If someone asks though I may tell them about her, it kinda depends on if I think that I will see them again.

I joined a babygroup, and I told them right away because I needed them all to know in case something triggered me to break down and cry during one of our sessions. Everyone was so understanding, and I think it helped me make stronger friendships. On the playground or in other classes like art or music (now that my child is a toddler), I never mention it unless I'm starting to get closer to a particular mom. At the end of my babygroup session (several months later), I thanked everyone for helping me to feel like a normal mom. It's hard. Xo

Thanks everyone. I went ahead and signed up for this one that starts this week after getting a sweet response from the facilitator, who is also a babylost mama. I do think I will say something about Peregrine right away. It has become more natural to me and I also will want that out there, like you said Sapphira. I might be using this as a venue to check in about the group which starts Tuesday. Thanks for your support. I wish you were all here so we could form our own group in person.

I have a mother's group from my first living daughter that I still see every month but my mother's group for my rainbow is made up of the beautiful baby-loss mums I met when I first loss Shelby. We were lucky enough to all have rainbows within a year of each other and the support and understanding between us is amazing. I also email regularly with Danielle from glow as we both lost our babies and had rainbows at around the same time. That kind of understanding is just so great to have.

I second your notion that wishes we could be in a mother's group of Glow mamas! Wouldn't that be fantastic?!

Hi Everyone,

Well, I joined the group. And in the intros, I talked about Peregrine in the context of who makes up my family. It went well (well, I didn't look at anyone's faces, but it seemed to go well). The group leader was very sweet and good at continuing to include Peregrine in her questions of introduction for me. Theeeeen, our group agreed to merge with another group of hers, to make a better sized group together. This means all new intros this coming week, and in the meantime, we had our first social outing (each week we have the facilitated group meeting and a group outing together). This was combined with the other group members. On this walk, I was asked if S. is our first, and at first I said yes, thinking I'd hold off until Tuesday's meeting to share about Peregrine. However, then it just kept coming up. First, I was walking with two women who were talking about how "life and death" labor can be, and finally I brought up Peregrine. After that, I brought him up with the other new group members I talked to, whenever it seemed appropriate. Of course, I couldn't really keep track (I am functioning with half a brain) and started to worry that I was saying repeatedly to people, "I don't know if I told you, but my son was stillborn" -- like that I was harping on it. But it seemed like I was telling new people, I guess.
I have never had to say it this many times out loud to people, let alone people I didn't know. But it was good, I think. People were great about it, and in general I really liked these new moms and thing they will be a great addition to our group.
Ironically, this first outing was to go for a walk in a local cemetery (I kind of get why it was a good location, but still strange), where one of my friends' sons is buried. I didn't mention that to any of them.
I had moments of feeling removed -- I think in some of the banal details and concerns, I guess, but I think overall this could be a good thing for me.
Thanks for all your help! I do wish we could just form an in-person group and I so appreciate this online version of one for those concerns that they just won't get. Hugs to all of you.

Wow, Juliet- what love got you through sharing so many times! And what bravery to be walking through a cemetery! Thanks for sharing. Please do again whenever you feel like it. Xo