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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

parenting after loss > Job stress

I am pretty sure that I am losing my job tomorrow. My boss canceled all my appointments and e-mailed me to tell me to meet him at our payroll company. They like to fire people, I am the 10th or 11th person that they have fired in the past 7 years... not counting support staff. I feel kind of numb and stressed since my DH took early retirement (with a very small monthly stipend) to care for Rosabella and I am really the sole bread winner. It all sucks since it is without cause, but this is a right to work state so no protection. I would like to fast forward to when this god awful meeting is over.

Of course this is nothing compared to losing Grace, nothing at all. Life will go on. It just sucks.
May 8, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGrace's Mom
I wish I had something to say, Grace's Mom - this is terrible. I am so sorry and will hope for the best for you, whatever the outcome of the meeting.
May 9, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterChristine's Mom
Oh no. I'm so sorry, Grace's Mom. That's so hard. I hope things turn out differently than you expect. If not, we've been through this at our house... Grief from this kind of blow is hard... One day at a time..deep breaths and put one foot in front of the other. Will be thinking of you, DH, and your girls.
May 9, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterCarrie
Oh no! I am sorry. I hope the meeting went differently than you expected!
May 9, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterMaggie's Mom
Well the meeting went as expected. No reason given, but they dud offer a very fair severence package for my 9 years of service. It was a pleasant surprise. I have 3 resumes sent and one called already for an interview, so fingers crossed. Thank you all so much for the support, it gave me the boost I needed to get through the meeting in a professional and dignified way.
May 9, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGrace's Mom
Grace's Mom - I'm so sorry to hear that it went as you thought it would. That said, I'm grateful to hear that your former employer provided a fair package. Hopefully, that package can get you to your next destination. How promising that you already have someone who wants to interview you! I sincerely hope that you find a good match employment wise very quickly. Maybe a fresh start with a new employer will be just what you need to feel less anxiety, etc. about work (as I know you've discussed before). Best of luck to you as you sort it all out!
May 10, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterCarrie
I'm so sorry Grace's mom. As I read your post I thought it could have been written by me 1.5 years ago (5 months after my son died). They too liked to fire people, all apparently having my son die cued it to be my turn. Well, they pushed me out technically.

Good for you for already having your resume out. But it doesn't make It easier. I found the loss of my job to compound my grief. For a period of time. I'm very sorry for your loss. And sorry life threw you one more curveball.
May 10, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAnnie
Grace's mom - I'm so sorry to read this! I hope that you find yourself employed again soon, and that it goes well when you go for your interview. Keep us posted.
May 12, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterColette
How you doing, Grace's Mom? I've been thinking about you. I hope you are able to enjoy some free time with your family despite the stress of finding a job. Much peace to you!
May 16, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterCarrie
Graces mom, I haven't been on glow much so missed this and much more...I'm sorry about hthis. They don't deserve to have you.
May 19, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterEm (Eva's mama)
I am hanging in there, thank you all for the replies and the support. The interview process is exhausting and although I have had two offers neither job is a perfect fit. One is more money, but I get a weird vibe from the office manager and it is a distressed practice (lack of good leadership for a long time), the other is great, but only part time. Trying to figure out what I really want out of my career is difficult, since I honesty just want a non-insane place to be and earn a decent living, but in a few years I may have greater aspirations. My DH has been supportive, but today he got really mad at me over some thing stupid and now is giving me the silent treatment, super mature I know. I just want everything to be okay again. I want to have 2 babies in the house (well a toddler and a baby) and even more financial stress. I want my DH to stop acting like a horses ass. Deep cleansing breath..... I can do this, I am just feeling low right now. Hope everyone else is having a better weekend.
May 24, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGrace's Mom