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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

parenting after loss > First sleepover

Today my mom came in and asked about taking Abbygail up to my Aunt's (about an hour away). I agreed somewhat hesitantly. It is always a little nerve racking the first night they are away from you. My Aunt has been sending me pictures but I still miss Abbygail.

I am finding that it is giving me time to think of Janice which is making me sad. I am missing both my girls so much tonight and not sure what to do with myself.

Part of me wishes that Janice was still here (I know that is a constant) and wondering what she would be doing; would she be at my Aunt's as well or would she be staying here getting some mommy and daddy time. How she would react to the attention Abby is getting as the new baby? Would Abby be getting as much attention by the relatives if Janice was still here?
March 10, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterTsukia
My hearts hurts missing Janice with you. I think Abby would still be getting lots of attention even if Janice were still here, everybody wants to spoil the new baby with love (I've found anyway). How old is Abby? I have only just let my 4 year old go away for the night (she went to her Nana's house for a visit) and I cried for ages when she left. It's so hard letting go even a little. If it gets too hard for you tonight is driving up to your Aunt's a possibility? Huge hugs.
March 11, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterShelby's Mum
Aww, I actually kinda love to read posts like this. I think it makes me feel like we're totally "normal" moms, too! About three weeks ago DH and I went on our very first "just us" getaway since Freya was born 17 months ago. For a whole weekend! My parents came and stayed with her. It was AWESOME. I missed her, of course, but it was so luxurious to just be "us" again for a little while and reconnect without the distractions and craziness of the kiddo. I think that's a pretty typical parenting thing. DH and I actually got to spend quite a while talking about Charlotte, which was sad and hard and nice all at the same time. In the end, though, I'm not sure who had the better time -- us on our getaway or my parents staying with Freya! :)
March 11, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAmanda