I can not relax at night while my rainbow boy sleeps. Try as I might..... I have a snuza monitor on him, I sleep in the room directly next door so I can hear his every move, I check him at least 5 times a night. I am exhausted and I think I'm causing him sleep problems because I disturb him when I'm checking on him then he wakes and wants to be fed..... and I get more tired and we go around again.

I have made an appointment to see a counsellor next week so hopefully it will be of some use.

I'm so sorry, Shelby's Mum. I'm glad to hear you have an appt with a counselor to get some help. Hopefully, he or she can give you some good tips on quelling the anxiety a bit. How old is Silas now?

I know that anxiety so well. We co-slept with our rainbow until just recently (last night was her first night completely in her crib) and now I wake up and want to check on her sooooo badly. Have you thought about a video monitor so you could see him without waking him up? I think that the counseling is a great idea too.

A video monitor is a great idea! You could do one more cheaply with a simple Wi-Fi camera, too. I think they have apps for OS or Android that will tie to your webcam. A friend of mine recommended that for us (but we'd need two). Thinking of you.

Im with you. I'm a sleep deprived walking zombie most days as I co-sleep with Bobbie though yesterday I brought her a cot. Saying that, one side is off and it's pushed right up against my bed so I've basically made a queen size bed with it! My health visitor gently suggested she should be in her own room now but I can't see that happening for a long time as all I would do is be in there at all hours like you and disturb her and me so instead I just disturb us whilst remaining in bed! I'm so tired and fantasise about putting her to bed at 7pm until 7am and getting my first full nights sleep in 36 weeks without waking up needing to hear her breath and check she isn't face down or something. I'm sure I've programmed myself not to stay asleep too long now incase I can't check in her! Up until now we have both been up every 2-3hrs every night. I'm interested what your counsellor says though as sleep deprecation is debilitating and so hard x

Thank you all. A video monitor is a good idea. We coslept until a few weeks ago, I found silas was waking every half hour and wanting to suck back to sleep so I had to change that. Our bedroom isn't big enough to fit the cot beside the bed so even though I wish I could do this I can't. Last night he slept from 6:30 until 3:30. I was awake and waiting from 2am but I did sleep from 9 til then, only with the help of a few wines........

Carrie, he is 6 months old. I can feel the anxiety is getting worse so am hoping talking to someone will help. This place specialises in pregnancy and loss so I do have high hopes for it.....