I just read this great article about feeding children, and when I got to the end and read the author's bio, it filled my heart to read that she has a six year old daughter and a boy in heaven. I love that she included him here, and it made me wonder about my own "bio" in life.

http://www.mothering.com/community/a/feeding-the-sensitive-child

I agree, it's nice to see this. I include Charlotte in everything, and I always answer honestly when people ask if Gabriel is my first. I feel that I must always answer honestly, though I understand why some people choose not to in certain situations. It's important to me that I never deny her, even though sometimes the people who asked the question in the first place wish that I would.

On a related note, a person I met at work the other day asked me if Gabe was my first, and I told her about Charlotte. She then told me that her mom had lost her firstborn too, her older brother. It warmed my heart that, even though she had never met him, this woman still felt enough of a connection to her brother that she referred to him that way, instead of just saying something like "my mom also lost a baby." That is how I hope that Gabe will feel about Charlotte, and I hope he will tell her/our story with as much compassion and love when he is older.

Thanks, Nikki, for sharing that story. You inspire me to tell the truth. Xoxo

I sadly haven't been asked and want to tell the truth if I am. I will never deny Zia, she is and will always be my daughter.