I lost my second child last June at 38 weeks due to a previously undiagnosed bloodclotting condition. We have been trying again and it turns out I don't have have very many eggs left, much less than I should at 37 years old. Both our living child and our loss were basically unplanned, so this was a tremendous, terrible surprise. We are going down all of the usual paths but it doesnt look great for us. My husband thinks I am too upset and i dont know how to explain to him that losing our daughter was like losing a limb and I will always feel incomplete but a new baby might lessen that somewhat. I dont really have a reason for posting, just feeling upset and alone.

Dear Situate,
I'm so sorry for the loss of your daugther and the unending hole that leaves in your soul, your life, your heart. I just want to say that I hear you - and that feeling like you're running out of time/options just sucks. Hugs to you and courage for the journey - whichever path you follow.

Thank you ♡

Situate,

I am so sorry for the upsetting news you received . I struggled with infertility after losing my second child and it was a long hard road filled with disappointment and loss, failed cycles, and miscarriage. I was finally able to conceive with egg donation after I realized that having another living child meant more to me than a genetic connection. This was decision was made easier by the fact my daughter died of a genetic disease and I was over 40. I am not suggesting you try or consider that. I just wanted you to know you are not alone and I’m sorry you’re going through this.