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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

for one and all > Finding Balance

How do you keep your baby's presence in your life without letting the grief overwhelm you? How do you let go of the grief and pain but maintain your baby's presence in your daily life? How do you keep him or or close?
January 1, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterkimberlee
Speaking just for myself, it seems that the two are intertwined. As my grief has lessened, so has the twins' presence in my life. I realize that others may feel differently, but, in many ways, I find peace in the letting go.

I'm sure others have found different balances, though....
January 2, 2009 | Registered Commenterniobe
See, that is exactly what I am afraid of. If I let go of the grief, I will let go of her. And I don't want to let go of her yet. All I have left of her is the hurt. And if that is gone, will she be gone too?
January 2, 2009 | Unregistered Commenterkimberlee
Kimberlee,

I'm struggling with this as well, especially when I catch myself appearing happy in public. I don't want to give the impression that I'm "over" losing my baby.
January 23, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterOM