Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.
Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.
After the death of my daughter I found myself talking to a friend who had gone through a loss of her own. I was lost and didn't know when or if I ever wanted to try to have another child. She gave me the greatest advice I ever received in that department. I can't say it as eloquently as she did but to sum it up:
"You will know it is right when the desire for another child outweighs the fear of another loss."
That's so true. I read in a loss book from the hospital a quote that stuck with me. It said something like "you were brave to have held on, but you'll be even braver to risk new beginnings."
"You will know it is right when the desire for another child outweighs the fear of another loss."