So I've been told by multiple doctors that I could not get pregnant. I finally was able to conceive and I was ecstatic. About a month or two in, I had a miscarriage. Now I'm having feelings of worthlessness. If I can't do something as simple as making a baby, how will I ever be a mother of I choose to adopt in the future. I don't know how to live with myself when thinking about what they would've grown up to be..

Anna, I am so sorry for your loss. It is such a painful experience that can make you question your body and yourself. I had the same thoughts after losing my baby - Isn't this what my body is meant to do? How did my body fail at this? What did I do wrong?

Although I had this guilt and self-doubt, I did see another side which was that our bodies are so incredible. They are strong and give us life and, although we may have lost our babies too soon, our bodies are helping us to heal. I hope you do not define your worth in this loss. Pregnancies are complicated like hell for so many reasons -- whether it's conceiving, keeping your baby, or delivering -- I feel like most pregnancy journeys I have heard is not linear. There is hardship that happens but that doesn't make any of us any less of a person. If anything, I think it makes us stronger. I also feel like you are a mother no matter what. Also if you choose to adopt, you are a mother. You will be a mother to those lucky children and they will cherish and value you. They'll look up to you as their mother. No matter what, you are loved and have so much worth to everyone around you.

It's devastating to go through loss at any point but know that you have a whole community of women here to help support. Wishing you all the best.

Hey Anna,

I'm really sorry for your pain and suffering. Wanting a baby and not having one is torture. As for fostering/adoption, have faith in your maternal instinct. If you love the idea of motherhood, there is no way you won't be able to love a child, whether it comes out of your body or not. Maybe it was meant to happen that way. There are so many children who desperately want to be loved, waiting for a home. I hope you find peace.