I know a girl who has had 8 kids in 11 years and she’s pregnant with another because GOD, of course.
She acts like she is Mother Earth, like her kids have all blessed the earth, and her essential oils are keeping them safe and sound and smiling.
I want to throw up.
I hate how she acts like she is so tough. “Mother of 8” with a muscle emoji. So rude, so callous.
I just can’t stand how moms of many act like they are superiorly female.

I'm sorry you are feeling this way and I hear you, I truly don't understand how this uneven balance even exists, how some women can have multiple children or multiple births like twins or triplets. I just wanted my son and clearly I wasn't "superior" enough to have him. It angers me when I see people like this who act like they are above others because they can produce children. It makes me feel like a failure. I have a friend, who mind you I'm happy for, but every time I speak to her she says how "blessed" she is, "blessed", the way she says it sometimes makes me feel as if I'm not blessed or worthy of being blessed.

That is messed up the way some people believe that god blesses or curses on whims. It doesn't make any sense.

Yes yes yes. The self-congratulatory tone of all pregnancy announcements (twins with no c-section! (I got this one today)); healthy plump newborn! 40 weeks on the dot! And one of my personal favorites from an acquaintance- “my husband looks at me and I get pregnant !”

They think they control these things and somehow deserve any credit in their happening. It makes me want to scream and throw things. Because they really don’t control it. They are just fucking lucky.

Totally hear you right now.

Xo

Yes Abby. This girl also “struggled with infertility” for a hot second before producing her 9 children in 12 years, so you know, God fixed it for them and blessed them. She is so self assured, of her body, of her non toxic lifestyle, of her ability to procreate and have it all turn out. I really can’t stand her and feel like she must have a mental illness to physically need all those kids on one salary in a 3 bedroom house but that’s me.

I am a mom of many. I have 5 living sons. 1 adopted daughter and my own sweet, precious Eva in heaven. I think people think my loss of Eva isn't as big a deal because I have many other children but each child is unique. I miss my daughter so much but I feel like I am not 'allowed' to grieve for her like moms with fewer children because her life doesn't matter as much because of her living siblings. I am sorry you have felt hurt by mom's of many but know it hurts on this side of the fence too. I feel looked down on by others cause 'dont you know how to stop kids'. Yes, yes we do. but losing Eva has brought heaven so much closer to us than ever. Hugs, Em