Does anyone else feel triggered by her? She announced her pregnancy on infant loss awareness day. She announced it at 3 months or something; as if that equates to not having a miscarriage, having a perfect ultrasound anatomy scan, no issues, safe delivery. I don’t know how you do that in the public eye. The assurance of it all. Now today, I watch a video where she says it’s hard and nobody asks her about herself. And all the comments keep referencing postpartum depression. So many women talking about it as if it’s so awful. All I can think is terrible thoughts. How wimpy these women are; like crying over spilled milk. Just tonight, I read a post from a lady so worn down because of “5 month sleep regression.” I have no empathy. Will it return and do I even want it to? I just can’t care. I know that post partum depression is real...but after hearing another friend tell me how awful hers was after delivering a perfectly healthy daughter, I just silently sit back in silence so I’m not a total bitch when I speak. Sometimes I really want to say what I want to say. I really do.

Do you ever just say what you want to? I would say “Try having your baby die and tell me about post partum depression”. I honestly don’t even think we get to be postpartum. We’re thrown into grief and nobody gives a shit we actually had a baby too.

OMG Anon your words spoke right through me... I feel exactly the same.. I am sorry to say it but I loathe this woman I really do and why is that? Because she had it so very easy... she got married and boom immediately she got pregnant and delivered a healthy baby... When she was pregnant i was pregnant with my twin girls too but she gave birth to her healthy baby and she took him home with her whereas me after 4 IVF tries we got pregnant with our girls and we lost them as they were born prematurely... and last month we had a miscarriage at 8w5d after our 5th try...

We women that lost our babies never get to be postpartum, you are so right... almost everybody acts like we didint give birth, like nothing happened, like we never were pregnant... like our babies never existed... and all we are left with is grief... grief... and a deafening silence of the baby that never got to come home with us...

Am so very sorry Anon for your loss and for feeling this way... I am standing right beside you and I hear you, mama... xxx

But to be honest she has nothing to do with my grief nor the loss of our gilrs.. but seeing her reminds me what I have lost and what she managed to have so easily. And she complains about it? Whatever, Meghan, whatever..

Yes! I am so sorry for your loss. And you’re right, it’s not her— as much as what she represents, I suppose. Now that’s she’s saying it’s hard then allll the other moms with live babies chime in “oh it’s so hard — thanks for speaking out and being brave”— but where is the public figure who has to go through infertility or stillbirth or retract the announcement because the baby isn’t coming anymore or came too early. I mean, what exactly would happen if she announced her pregnancy and then the baby died? Or was born sick? They just pop them out healthy and fine. I guess she just forgot to think about how much harder it could actually be- to not have support, to not have money, to not have medical care, and most importantly to not have your baby alive and well.

I just don’t have compassion and it’s something that bothers me about myself now... I have a lot of it for real things and none of it for things I believe are bullshit.

I feel exactly like you Anon.. I have zero compassion for bullshit... loss does that to you as it makes you realize what it really feels like to actually have a problem that cant be solved.. I started feeling like this when I lost my only brother and then when we lost our girls too it kind of made sense that I had no compassion for things that do have a solution... at first I was scared of the new "me" but gradualy I realised that it was, it is, the only way to stay afloat and survive...

Dont worry about becoming a mean heartless person because you are not my dear Anon... it is the exact opposite... because your heart hurts so much you react to things that dont really matter that much so that people may understand what it truly feels like to have lost a piece of you... xxx

Thank you so much

You are not alone. We understand.

A nurse asked me if I suffered from post partum depression with any previous pregnancies. And I'm like, I just told you my baby died! He lived for three days in the NICU and died, of course I suffered from depression! She's like, "Yeah well, besides that, I mean." I said there is no besides that. I said a person is never really the same after her baby dies.

This is exactly what my husband and I were talking about. I can't care about anyone and their boohoo stories of their lack of sleep because they were up all night with their new born. I'm sleep deprived because I miss my son who I didn't have enough time with and don't want to close my eyes cause my dreams are even too far from the thought of him or his pictures, My husband can't sleep because all he has are nightmares every night about losing our son, and being awake is filled with nothing but anxiety. I feel you, we are all in a state of permanent postpartum depression.

Megan also has the best psychiatric care a woman could want, nannies to give her sleep or a break, no long NHS waiting lists for her. I do have sympathy for postnatal depression but not whiney rich woman with healthy pregnancies and very easily lives, shes just so awful.