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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

for one and all > My first ever poem

Today, our darling girl,
You are one and a half,
I imagine your walk,
He imagines your laugh.

He longs for your affection,
I ache to hear you cry,
A mum and dad should never have to say goodbye.

Would your fingers be long?
Would your toes be chubby?
Would I let you craw around in the backyard, and get all grubby?

Would you have blonde curls?
Would your eyes be blue?
All we can do now, is imagine you.

You are on my mind, day and night.
Sometimes I want to be with you,
That I have to fight.

Your dad, he has saved me, plenty of times.
I don't know how he is so strong for me,
When he longs to sing you nursery rhymes.

It's been hard to see your baby cousins,
It's been hard to congratulate friends,
But the hardest is seeing the bond between a mother and baby,
Because we should be them.

Right now we have an urge, to see your flesh and blood, to see it in your cousins, it a bittersweet kind of love.

Their eyes so pure and innocent, their features similar to yours, and when they speak your name with carefree joy, that's something I adore.

You were eight years of love between two best friends,
You took exactly 36 weeks to grow,
You fought for 13 days here on earth,
You will be loved and cherished forever, more then you will ever ever know.

For you were our gift, our greatest achievement, our beautiful baby girl.
We will live everyday with kindness and good in our hearts, for you, our whole world.
February 19, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterElla
Ella, thank you for posting this - It's beautiful, it is so good to hear the loss of our babies fathers' made part of it too.
Sending you and your family big hugs tonight
February 19, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterKE
Ella, beautiful words that made my heart ache for your baby girl and all the others.
Thanks for sharing.
February 21, 2018 | Unregistered CommenterEYR