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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

for one and all > Three years

Three years ago you still were held under my beating heart, yours not beating anymore. Where did time fly? It still feels like yesterday it all happend, you not beeing alive. Still remember the nurs who met us that day, still remember what I wore, the smell of hot summer, and the doctor. The nurse, an angel who I've also talked to afterwards.
Day like this, I miss my griefgroup and our conselor, I wish that we could have a kind of follow-up program. Once or twice a year at least, just talking to those who kept me up of the gutter those first raw months. I miss them.
August 12, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterScandinavian endo-girl
Thinking of you and your baby girl...
August 13, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterShannon
Hi Scandinavian endo-girl.
Your little miss s and my boy died at similar times. Like you I remember the details so clearly... they never go away.
I'm not a grief counsellor or face-to-face support group, but I am someone who remembers you & your family, and I'd be happy to be in touch, to connect now & again, just to share how we're both doing. (If you want?)
Oh, and I don't think it's ever too late to reconnect with grief support, or a counsellor if you feel you want to. Your feelings may not be so raw as they were, and emotions change, but still they are strong & real feelings of your heart. With love x
August 19, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterZ's Mum
Scandinavian endo-girl, Little miss s is remembered. I want you to know that. And I am sorry your grief group ended. Perhaps there are other groups you can join? If not, we are always here for you.
August 21, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterRuby's Mom
Thank you ladies, beautiful mamas, for remembering my girl and my family.

We always reconnect a little bit when one of our little ones have still birthdays, and that's nice, but not quite enough at times, I allways feel like I'm bothering them when I reach out to them. They live closer and meet up from time to time, I live hours away from them.

Z's mum, that's so sweet of you, and I actually think I will accept that offer.
August 21, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterScandinavian endo-girl