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Parents of lost babies and potential of all kinds: come here to share the technicolour, the vividness, the despair, the heart-broken-open, the compassion we learn for others, having been through this mess — and see it reflected back at you, acknowledged and understood.

Thanks to photographer Xin Li and to artist Stephanie Sicore for their respective illustrations and photos.

for one and all > Thanks IRS

I'm filling out the section for dependents and tearing up that I can't claim my son. I wish I could just do it once, just to make it more official that he is mine.
March 29, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterMom2htb
Right there with you. I feel the motherhood --> "otherhood" designation on just about everything now, including things as routine and mundane as tax forms. There's never really a break from feeling left out of what should be. I'm sorry this is so tough. xo
March 29, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterNM
This might not help you, but I know that in Missouri and Arizona, you can claim a stillbirth on your taxes. It was awful doing that for our twins this year, but I understand needing the vindication/recognition of their personhood. My children mattered to me and I want them to matter to other people. Remembering you and your precious baby today.
March 30, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterLeah
I think the hospital didn't check her heart beat until after midnight on purpose....that way date of death was a different day then day of birth. It was a $2,000 difference.

And she's still gone....

I'm sorry your dependent wasn't recognized as such.
June 17, 2017 | Unregistered CommenterKO